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Rapid return not working

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Seth · 23/01/2013 02:13

After a few weeks of DS ( 2.5) arriving in my bed in a nightly basis and me doing all the things that can cause problems ( letting him stay in with me, giving him milk etc) I decided I needed to sort things out. Neither of us were getting any proper sleep for over half the night.

I decided that the thing
I felt most comfortable doing was the rapid return method as I not sure I could stomach hearing him scream if I let him cry it out. ( did try it once -he'd taken his bed apart and flung everything around the room by the time I went back in)

So for the 4th night running I have been up , sitting outside his room going in every 2 minutes and putting him back in bed. Minimal eye contact, efficient , telling him its time for sleep and leaving the room. He doesn't need a nappy change, is not hungry and there is nothing that he needs. I have bought a new night light as at one point he was saying the room was too dark.

Anyway we don't seem to be making any progress! It's been 2 hours each night and around 50/60 'put back into beds' each night!

I had 2/3 nights in my head ( perhaps too optimistically) as that's what the success stories on MN seem to say with a general improvement every night as the message sinks in.

I am a single mum and work full time and an finding this really tough. I think I would have more strength to carry on if I was seeing any signs of things getting better but as it is I can't see light at the end of the tunnel!

Does anyone have any experience or surprised of this to share please? I think I could manage another couple of nights of this but am feeling exhausted and hopeless! Doing this on my own night after night with thoughts of work the next day is just rubbish!

Any advice gratefully received!

So

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Seth · 23/01/2013 02:15

Oh and meant to say..he may be on the verge of dropping his lunchtime nap so I have asked the childminder to only let him sleep for a shorter period ( from tomorrow) to see if this has any effect.

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OnlyWantsOne · 23/01/2013 02:19

I watch with interest!!

Dd2 is 2.2 and wakes every single night.

We did the chair in her room - moving it slightly towards the door thing. Got to the door & all hell broke out and we are back where we were before but minus her demanding milk she just wants cuddles.

Hope some one can help. It's horrific isn't it.

Seth · 23/01/2013 02:36

Glad to see I'm not alone! Yes I tried that too. Yes is a faster way of them getting to sleep but I found as you did that when you gingerly try to leave the room for good it's back to sq1!

DS has started pulling the duvet off the bed onto the floor every time I go back in now. Is infuriating isn't it?

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OnlyWantsOne · 23/01/2013 07:29

Dd2 was in bed with us from 1am this morning.

She kicks the covers off and make me cold.

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