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I've just left DS to cry to sleep and now feel crap

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CheekymonkeysGreatestHits · 20/04/2006 22:04

I've just let my DS cry himself to sleep and feel awful about it Sad I so want him to fall asleep happy and contented but on the other hand don't want him to get the message that crying = mummy coming in for cuddles. Damn this parenting is so hard! Please tell me i'm doing the right thing.......anyone...........

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beansprout · 20/04/2006 22:04

How old is he?

ShaysMummy · 20/04/2006 22:06

i personally cant do it- it makes me cry. ive only tried it once- never again.
i found that he woke up more as if he was having nightmares about it!
sorry- thats not what u wanted was it?! :) x

beansprout · 20/04/2006 22:07

Sorry, didn't mean to post so soon! If he is over 6 months, then cc can be used. A couple of nights of cc and everyone lives to tell the tale. You are not crap, you need sleep and so does he. I used to sit and cry while ds did but it didn't take long and now everyone is fine. Please don't give yourself a hard time.

busybusybee · 20/04/2006 22:10

IMHO - You are doing the right thing

DD and DS both nromally go to sleep without a peep of fuss. They sleep all night long. So do I, well normally.

Happy mummy - definitely worth listening to a bit of screaming and suffering guilt/listening to the initial wails

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CheekymonkeysGreatestHits · 20/04/2006 22:15

He is 13 months old. Normally he goes off to sleep no problem but last night after 1/2 hour he woke and cried until DH or I went in, this went on till 10.45 when he finally fell asleep and again tonight so I decided that I would go in after 5 mins then 10 and it took approx 45 mins before he fell asleep. Maybe i'm jumping the gun with him?

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bobblehead · 20/04/2006 22:18

You're doing the right thing and he will still love you in the morningSmile

Littlefish · 20/04/2006 22:24

He won't remember in the morning, I promise!

mazzystar · 20/04/2006 22:26

Stick with it. It really works.

I became very hard-hearted after 18 mos of being woken two or three times. We had it sorted in 2 days.

Meggymoose · 20/04/2006 22:28

You are doing the right thing - I'm in the process of doing it too. Have (just about) survived the 4th bedtime.

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CheekymonkeysGreatestHits · 20/04/2006 22:36

That's the fear isn't it? Whether he will remember in the morning and think i'm a mad crazy cow!
Heart is being pulled in two directions at the moment, so sad he went to sleep upset.
I work with a guy who's 3yr & 6yr olds sleep in their bed and he ends up in kids room and swore I would never let it get to that.

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CheekymonkeysGreatestHits · 20/04/2006 22:37

Congrats to all who have survived!! Thank you for your words of support Smile

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Meggymoose · 21/04/2006 10:31

Imagine how your colleagues 3 and 6 yr old are going to feel if and when their mummy and daddy decide that they need to sleep in their own beds? For them sleeping with mummy and daddy is normal and it has always been like that. They may have major anxiety and may find it difficult to understand why things need to change. Your ds is never going to remember and in the long run IMO it's kinder for him to learn to sleep by himself and settle himself now, than risk the chance of anxiety later.

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CheekymonkeysGreatestHits · 21/04/2006 13:23

I hear you but it's sooooo easier said than done.
However, he had a wonderful night and I had to wake him at 8am for nursery. Here's hoping that the crying is shorter tonight!

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