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quick PU/PD question?

4 replies

SANA · 19/04/2006 13:28

I am about to start sleep training 14mth DS. I have tried PU/PD a couple of months ago but think I am doing it wrong and gave up quickly. Thnigs are so bad now that I def have to do something before i lose the plot

I understand that you PU when they cry but for PD do u do this when they are calm or do you put them down straight away even if they r crying?

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jodie1984 · 19/04/2006 15:23

as soon as they are calm

Seona1973 · 19/04/2006 19:33

with this age you would more lie them down rather than pick up and lie down and you would do it without waiting until they are calm.

From babywhisperer website:

*Establish a routine so the baby knows what comes next: at bedtime a bath, jammies etc.
*Use your voice - say "Jonah, we're just going to sleep now, I'll see you soon"
*Put the baby in the crib
*As soon as he cries, pick him up and repeat what you said
*Put him back down right away... DO NOT WAIT UNTIL BABY IS CALM
*Pick him up and repeat what you said
*Put him back down again
*Continue this over and over and over until you see cues or sense that he is trying to settle himself. For me the cues were: trying to find fingers, burrowing his head, cries getting weaker
*When you see signs of settling, leave him down and continue to reasurre/sooth him as well as keep physical contact. I would use shhhh in his ear as it got his attention and also talk to him "I know this is hard, we're just going to sleep, I know you can do it" etc.
*If you think he needs extra soothing or reassurance, go ahead and pick him up again, making sure to put him down again right away.
*Continue this until he falls asleep.

You should leave the room, or step back and observe, depending on your childs age, once their breathing is calm and regular, but they are not asleep. The idea is to have them fall asleep without you there, so watch for this fine line.

*If you are as consistent with the new method as you were with the old, it will change
*Don't start if you do not have the resolve to see it through and not give in. It's NOT FAIR to make a child cry for 40 min or longer, only to give them the pacifer, the rock, the swing, whatever.
*Turn the language around when they cry. Try not to see it as them crying out of anger or sadness, but they are just telling you in the only language they know that this is not what they're used to. Use your voice to reply that you are teaching them a better way to sleep.

Seona1973 · 19/04/2006 19:34

with this age you would more lie them down rather than pick up and lie down and you would do it without waiting until they are calm.

From babywhisperer website:

*Establish a routine so the baby knows what comes next: at bedtime a bath, jammies etc.
*Use your voice - say "xxxxx, we're just going to sleep now, I'll see you soon"
*Put the baby in the crib
*As soon as he cries, pick him up and repeat what you said
*Put him back down right away... DO NOT WAIT UNTIL BABY IS CALM
*Pick him up and repeat what you said
*Put him back down again
*Continue this over and over and over until you see cues or sense that he is trying to settle himself. For me the cues were: trying to find fingers, burrowing his head, cries getting weaker
*When you see signs of settling, leave him down and continue to reasurre/sooth him as well as keep physical contact. I would use shhhh in his ear as it got his attention and also talk to him "I know this is hard, we're just going to sleep, I know you can do it" etc.
*If you think he needs extra soothing or reassurance, go ahead and pick him up again, making sure to put him down again right away.
*Continue this until he falls asleep.

You should leave the room, or step back and observe, depending on your childs age, once their breathing is calm and regular, but they are not asleep. The idea is to have them fall asleep without you there, so watch for this fine line.

*If you are as consistent with the new method as you were with the old, it will change
*Don't start if you do not have the resolve to see it through and not give in. It's NOT FAIR to make a child cry for 40 min or longer, only to give them the pacifer, the rock, the swing, whatever.
*Turn the language around when they cry. Try not to see it as them crying out of anger or sadness, but they are just telling you in the only language they know that this is not what they're used to. Use your voice to reply that you are teaching them a better way to sleep.

maretta · 19/04/2006 19:37

When I did it, I used to wait until ds had stopped crying.

It did work but took a lot of doing. The first night took three hours. He settled for about 20 minutes and then gave it another go. The next night, no porblems. You just have to keep the faith. Good luck

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