Listening to DD scream herself sick - help!

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DD is 21 months and never been a good sleeper. She goes down okay - I BF her, put her in bed awake, then either DH or I sits with her until she's asleep.

The problems is that she wakes in the night, comes through to our bed and wants BF. I feed her and take her back to her own bed. This takes 40 mins to an hour and happens twice a night. She comes through at 6/6:30, feeds then that's her up for the day. I'm knackered! DH and I decided that tonight is the night we start tackling this.

She woke up at 9:30, DH went through and she's been screaming ever since. Horrible, forced screaming that is making her retch and throw up. She's screaming for mummy cuddles. It's awful to listen to and I'm finding it very hard not to go through. She's woken her 5 yr old brother up too and he's not amused!

How can we get through this without scarring her, and us, for life?!?!?! It's awful!

Sorry you are going through this. My little sister used to scream until she was sick and i dont think she was any more or less ditressed than any other child tbh.

Update:
Last night she went to bed happily, chattered a while so not asleep until 8. She didn't wake until 4. She came through, I gave her a quick cuddle and reminded her that milk doesn't work when mummy is sleeping, and DH took her back to her bed. She cried for less than a minute! She got up at 6, had a big BF and us now happily watching peppa pig.

Result!

Well done :) it is amazing how fast they adapt if you hold your nerve!

I know! I thought it would be weeks if torture but its really not too bad. Fingers crossed it stays this way!

I smiled at the part where "mummy's milk does not work when she is sleeping" . Glad you got the result you wanted. :)

SHE SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT!!!!!!

She went to sleep last night after nearly an hour of monkeying around, quite a long time for her, and the didn't wake up again until 6:40.

SHE SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT!!!!!!!

Excellent

I will be PMing you for tips soon. We moved house today so not going to try anything drastic with unsettled DS just yet but will defo need to change something soon.

I hope tonight is equally wonderful

Yay :)

Long may it last!!

Next you need to start not sitting with her until she goes to sleep. Put her to bed, tell her you need to go and have a shower and you'll be back in 5 minutes (go back in 10 mins), see how she is - say you need the toilet & you'll be back in 5 minutes (go back after 10), say you need some water (go back in 10) minutes until she's asleep. Couple of nights later stretch it to 15 minutes. You'll soon be in a position of putting her to bed and her completely self settling.

The last two nights she's slept through until 4:30. She's gone back to sleep relatively easily and happily for DH, then up again at 6:30/6:45.

I feel like a new woman. After almost two years of three hours sleep at a time max, this is amazing. It's been so much easier than I expected too.

ATruth, just go for it!

Great news