It's all gone tits up! 13 week old given up sleeping.

[mcyawny]

I'm slowly going mad through sleep deprivation and frustration and just don't know what to do anymore.
My 13 week old ds' sleep is terrible. the first 6 weeks were a nightmare as he had colic. Between weeks 6 and 10 things got better and he even slept through 10.30 to 7 twice. Then he got hand, foot and mouth from his big sister. He now has a cough which wakes him at night but I don't think that's the only problem. As he reached 3 months we stopped the colief we'd been using and things were ok-ish. But there has been a gradual deterioration since last week. He won't nap, gets really overtired and descends into screaming for hours. If he does nap it only lasts 45 mins then repeat the screaming as above. At night he settles well in a cot in our room about 7-12. Then between 12 and 4am he's unsettled before having a bottle then sleeping til about 6.30 when he becomes unsettled again. Even when he's had a good day of naps due to being out in car or buggy, the night isn't better.
Have re started on colief today in case it's that. Have tried white noise, rocking, using a sling, sleeping in buggy in different areas of house, pat shush, even lying on his front. To no avail. He uses a dummy already.
Does anyone have any advice or positive stories of things like this being short lived/improving PLEASE!

Ps. I also have tried not to overstimulate, and to put him down while he's still happy before he's overtired.
Is this going to last forever because it feels like it.
I have PND and this just makes it so much worse.

How's the temperature of his room? If if DS's room drops below 20 degrees he gets really fidgety and hard to settle. Growth spurt? Erm-trying to be helpful and probably not being, but didn't want to leave you unanswered! Hope it improves soon x

Also go to bed at 7pm when he does if that's when the good bit of sleep is. I went to bed as soon as DS did for months and months. Then at least you Might get a few solid hours in.

Thank you teacher for your replies. Our room does get quite cool at night, I'll look into that.
As you can probably tell I'm not asleep yet though could've been since 7pm, I really should catch some zzz before he wakes again. I'm terrible for not making the most of the time he's sleeping so I can do very important things -mning-
Going to bed now!
What was your story when you used to head up early, did it get better in the end.
My 1st born was such a good sleeper and still is, so this is a real shock.

Yeah DS was crapola for months (he's 7 1/2 months now) he was and is a big baby (91st centile) and was just hungry hungry hungry at night until we started weaning at 5 1/2 months. he's also always been massively inconsistent, other babies seem to feed at approximately the same times each night, whereas DS did a different thing every night of the week and still does. I always keep the room dark and quiet, he has white noise playing, keep it nice and warm, and never ever give in to turning on the light or playing with him. I have suffered with terrible anxiety and insomnia (ironically!) about his sleeping, through having so many broken nights and the sheer unpredictable nature of it. I can honestly say that broken sleep has really put me off the thought of having another baby! I really hope it gets better soon. I still go to bed normally by 9pm if I'm just at home, I stopped the 7pm bedtimes at about 4 months!

Really really hope it improves soon x

Ooh-also I found things got better when we picked a way of him going to sleep and stuck with it. I used to try all the things you described one after the other and he would get more and more wound up. I found the only thing that worked was to completely ignore him!

My dd (19wks) goes thru bad nighttime patches of waking every 90 mins - often its teething or a cold - I make a flask of tea and go to bed with her (she does go to bed at 9 though). More sleep - and eating lots - is the only way. Hard to get everything done but it's really the only way to cope. I get overwhelmed and cross otherwise. Hope you getting some sleep now xx

Thanks again for the replies- last night was a lot better I think I didn't realise that he was actually hungry at times when I thought he hadn't previously been if that makes sense I got stuck in his old routine and forgot that they do change. you'd think I would know by now! Also much better during the day we think it's due to the colief being back in his system. Maybe he's got a more permanent type of lactose intolerance, will see the gp about that.
You're so right though squidge it's all about coping with what's happening rather than necessarily trying to change their needs.

Sounds like you've had a really tough time teacher, Im not surprised it's put you off having another, although who's to say the next one might be completely different and sleep like an angel. At least you're prepared for the worst!

I think they often are hungry even if you don't think they possibly could be! Well DS cut two more teeth this week so we've had a fair bit of wailing, am rather optimistically hoping that maybe, just maybe he won't have a cold, be teething or doing anything crazy developmentally over the next week whilst we're away over Xmas! I can cope with almost anything in our own beds!!