please help me 21mo driving me and neighbors up the wall !

[didipickles]

My 21 month old has never been a great sleeper but since she was about 17 months on the whole would sleep through the night. A couple of weeks ago she was poorly and started waking in the night so i let germ come in with me . She then continued to wake every night at half 2 expecting to come in with me. I gave in as i was ill and am on my own so had no energy for it. Last night i thought enough is enough, half 2 came and the crying started. I ignored it for 5 mins but it got worse so i went and sat next to her cot and did a mixture of singing, soft talking and ignoring . I thought she'll eventually get tired and lie down but she stood there for 2 hours!! Continued to cry and lie screamed if i stood up! I gave up and she came and l slept in my (single ) bed. It means we r waking up after 9 and the day is gone, we r both grumpy and the the neighbors must think im torturing her and them! Please help, im so exhausted .

Sorry no advice but I could have written your post word for word
I'm currently writing this doing controlled crying using mn to pass the time

Ahh I'm on my own too and until sept dd was a dream at sleeping in her cot, then I had to take a cleaning job in the evenings and her whole routine got messed up and by the time we got home (she would stay with my mum) if be Sooo tired I'd just let her sleep in my bed. Cleaning job finished and she won't even look at her cot!

oh no its rubbish isnt it! I suppose maybe we cant take comfort in that we're not the only ones out there. So when you are having to get up in the middle of the night just think we're probably doing it too! Some progress last night was that she didn't start crying til about half 4 so here's hoping I get even longer tonight! Hope you both get some sleep soon too! .
sleepdodger did the controlled crying work?

My son is 21mo and he was never a great sleeper. But at 10 months he got it. Then at 15 month, he started waking up or expecting us to make him fall asleep. He used to wake up at 2 and get up at 6.30. One night I said 'Enough!'. Let's let him cry.

He cried for an hour, the following day, 30min, the next day, 15 and like that. Now he sleeps through without a problem. Mind you, we never entered the room once he started crying unless we heard there was a problem. I think that the more you go in, the crazier they get.

Last night he refused to go to bed. I gave him a hug and he cried, then slept. Now, right now, while I'm typing, he's crying because he's not ready to sleep but I know that if he doesn't, he will be knackered the rest of the afternoon. So, there he is crying. Oh, now he's stopped. He's tired.

Some parents don't do a crying method - certainly I was one of those until I went mad! Now, he sleeps wonderfully - well, until yesterday. But whenever he refuses to nap or go to bed, I let him cry. I may sound crazy but it has to be done sometimes.

Good luck!