What am I doing wrong?

[SamraLee]

My baby is 5 months old (22 weeks). She co-sleeps and is combination fed, but only breastfed during the night. When she sleeps with me at night she wakes up about 5 times a night and will normally go right back to sleep after I breastfeed her. When she spends the night at her grandma's house, she'll wake up 2 times or so. For example, last night (at her grandma's) she slept from 9:30 - 4:30 and then woke up at 6:30 and then was up for good at 8:00. What am I doing wrong that she won't sleep for me, but she will sleep with other people? When she sleeps with me she wakes up every 2 or so hours. The only thing I can think of is that she naps better for me during the day, but I don't think she's napping too much, around 4 or 5 hours divided into three naps. Is there something I'm doing wrong? Thanks for your help.

Are you there at Grandma's too? If not, does she sleep on her own? She may know that at grandma's she's not going to be fed and so wakes up less. With you, she knows you will breastfeed her so is waking for that. Also, is she having formula at night at grandma's? Takes longer to digest so less hungry? Watch tho if you cut down on night feeds your supply would be affected.

You're not doing anything wrong. They always sleep for other people. It's the 17th law of children.

I think you are right about not being fed at night at her grandma's. I notice that when she wakes up, if I feed her a bit and then go to the toliet, by the time I come back she's happy and asleep, but as soon as I come back to bed and she smells me, she wants more milk. Sometimes she will sleep on the bed with us and just sleep by herself, not cuddling up to me, she sleeps much better. We have a cot for her, but we haven't used it yet because we are going on holiday soon and she will have to co-sleep there and we didn't want to get her use to the cot only to have to co-sleep for three weeks and then make her go back to the cot. Hopefully when we come back she will like sleeping in the cot.

I find this too with my ds 30weeks. If we cosleep he grazes all night long, but if we sleep separately he wakes for a feed at 5.30, regardless of what time he goes to bed. I am sure it is to do with the smell of milk. We have overcome this by butting his cot against my bed, with the side dropped down. He is close enough for me to comfort him with patting, but not so close that he smells me if he wakes in the night.