How to transition 5mo out of cosleeping?

[SilverSky]

Have a 5mo ds2 who slept well as a small baby, going through from 8-530 for awhile. Then this changed as I knew it would.

We then started cosleeping when he woke in the early hours as he wouldn't resettle and was rather vocal.

Long story short, he won't sleep anywhere else. Refuses to even nap in his own bed whereas before he would.

The evenings are awful as he won't go to sleep, he just screams screams screams. Doesn't matter who is holding him. He's not hungry. He's not too hot\cold. I've sat in a darkened room for hours. As soon as I put him in his Cot he yells. I've taken him out his Moses as he's getting big for it. I've got a musical mobile. I've put my nightie round the mattress. White noise worked for awhile. I've run out of strategies.

So he ends up downstairs with me screaming usually until I take him to bed with me. He's very happy in our bed and enjoys the security and comfort and readily available snack bar. However I'm exhausted as I don't sleep well at all. I've also a 2yo to look after so I don't really have opportunities to catch up on sleep in the day as the 5mo naps usually in the sling/buggy/car/whilst being held. Anywhere but his bed.

I also do not want to go to bed every evening at 8pm. I would like a little time to myself eg I have Christmas Cards to write and laundry and allsorts that I don't always manage in the day.

What are the least stressful ways to move him out of our bed?

Thanks if you made it this far.

Much sympathy. Cot refuser here too - I am at the end of my rope and got about 3 hours sleep last night. At one point he spent two hours solid attached to a boob as he refused to let it be replaced with a dummy. Hope someone comes along with a good idea as I am lurking with interest.

Marks place. Ds is just over 6 months and co sleeping is his new bag, plus punching me for constant boob, I too am knackered. Moving his cot into his own room shortly but what's the bloody point.

We put DS2 in his own room as thought we were waking him. I think we were. However he has decided that having his own room is a luxury he does not need because having company and the boob comfort is far more valuable.

Shhhh pat has stopped working. If I start to pat him he gets really cross!

I bought ncss 3 months ago, too tired to read it let alone give the strategies a go. He's currently sound asleep on dh chest, dh also sound asleep.

I have read that twice. On the plus side the baby really enjoys chewing on it.

I've tried again twice this evening to put him in his Moses in his cot and I had time to put the dishwasher on before the screaming started. Second time was about two minutes. I fed him again, he fell asleep on me, I transferred him to his Moses and cue more screaming. He is now downstairs on my lap smiling and chatting.

He has been awake since 3pm.

He's going to end up back in our bed isn't he?

We are on night two of limited success with a new strategy. We have one of those tent like travel cots
www.amazon.co.uk/Koo-Di-Pop-Bubble-Cot-Polka/dp/B000NWIU5C

Anyway the point of this is that it goes on the floor in our bedroom. Once I have boobed him pretty much to sleep we lie down him in the travel tent and me on the floor next to it pretty much getting in there with him so it feels like he is in bed with me. Offer the boob back again if required and pretend to be going asleep too. Beat a hasty retreat when he is properly asleep.

We didn't get any long sleep stretches and I ended up lying on the floor re-settling him in the freezing cold and he did end up in bed with me eventually but only from 5 onwards. We are going to try this for another week and see how it goes because at least he is sleeping without a boob in his mouth some of the time and I hate co-sleeping my back can't take much more.

Some success there....our night was shite. As shite as can be....

I've started wearing socks and my dressing gown in bed as I end u with no covers due to fear of overheating him and then squished between the baby and Him Indoors. It's like being diffed all over again eg only ever sleeping on my fricking side. My back is in any come the morning.

We've had some improvement tonight in that he has been in his own room twice this evening and back downstairs once. He is back up there now. I should really go to bed.

Ha you should see some of my sechsy bedtime gear! Since I know I will be out of bed in the freezing cold resettling him or in bed with him with the duvet only half way up I have taken to going to bed dressed like an arctic explorer.
Last night I got 4 hours unbroken sleep. Not because Max slept through - not a chance. Daddy took over for the first half of the night and I slept in bed by myself in total peace for a while. Makes the world of difference when you get a stretch longer than 90 minutes - I have even been moderately cheerful today.

More failure. Refuses to sleep in own bed. Back in with me/us. Well I'm out tomorrow night so Him Indoors will have the pleasure. Or not as the case will be.

This baby is STILL awake. I've no idea how but he is. I'm feeding again in the hope it might lead to him sleeping. Fear it's wishful thinking on my part really.