How do i do this??? 2 needing naps

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AGGGGGHHHHHHHH

I have ds1 2yrs 7 months and ds2 7.5months

they have had to go into the same room now as ds2 climbs out of basket, and cot won't fir into our bedroom.

so getting them down at night isn't too bad, ds1 goes to bed at 7 ish so far with dh, and i bf ds2 and wait till he is asleep and then put him on our bed. later we put ds2 in the boys room, when we ares sure ds1 is asleep.

so, now what the f do i do about naps?
ds2 today fell asleep in pushchair but has woken and now needs more sleep. previously i would have put him in his basket in our room and let him cry for 5 mins, if not asleep then get up and play a bit then try again...

but ds1 desperately needs a nap. he won't go down v easily some days anyway and needs 3-4 books before going to bed, read on his bed.

Ds2 was in most need so i put him into his crib and then got ds1 onto our bed and read a cuople of stories.

ds2 yellede and yelled and ds1 wouldn't sleep on our bed and just rattled the door where ds2 was crying...

so now we are watching the fing crap on tv, me feeling likew i want to thump the wall... and trying to work out how to get them both to sleep si multaneously in the same room without a complete melt down by all 3 of us.

how do i do this???
i am tired and need 5 minutes rest at least- is that too much to ask for????

ds2 is sooo clingy just now, he cries if he loses sighjt of me...
aghhhhhhhh

well don't all rush at once!!

ds1 just fallen to sleep on sofa so will put him in our bed in a min i think, or maybe leave him there

so 1 down, 1 to go.
bit late in the day really, but the park wasso sunny and the sand pit so much fun!

Oops, I know how desperate you feel - was the same for me with ds1 and ds2. Poor you.
Can't write too much or Mosschops will be down on me like a ton of bricks - we have a pact today to keep each other working and not spending time on MN...
BUT the only thing that worked for me was finding different places for them to sleep - even if they weren't ideal.
Sounds like your ds1 is used to napping in his room, so I think he should stay there.
Would your ds2 nap in his buggy in the house if ds1 wasn't around to distract him?
Your only problem them would be who to put down first. Would ds1 go to sleep if you read him gradually fewer books (2 instead of 3, then 1 instead of 2)? Would you be happy leaving ds2 in the buggy while you did this?
Or could put ds2 in a bouncy chair outside ds1's room while you put ds1 to sleep?
Don't know if any of this helps but I wanted you to know that you're not alone in this. And that it does pass (eventually)

This is tricky. Have dd (2.9) and ds (7 months). Fortunately in separate rooms and after about 4 months both had simultaneous naps.
How about getting ds1 to sleep first while ds2 in pram? Would ds2 have a good sleep in the pram? And then maybe be transferred to cot quietly once ds1 well away. Or could you get ds2 asleep in cot, then get ds1 to sleep in your bed during the day?
Sorry - not much advice only because I know all babies have different ways of going to sleep and some go without a whimper and some are screamers and wrigglers which'll make things much harder.

Like Juliab says - pram might be the way forward for now?

when i have this problem with dd and ds, i just get all 3 of us in our bed and have a cuddle. when they're both asleep, plonk ds in cot, leave dd where she is and sneak off for a bit of alone time myself. i think its safe to say you are definatley not alone in this. up and down the country there are mums everywhere going slowly mad

thanks!
will try buggy, that is a good idea.
i've never tried to get ds2 to sleep in buggy in house, but my friend manged last week when i had to take ds1 to a and e (another story) for 4 hrs

i think ds2 is objecting to his new cot too.

i know this will pass, but then there will be the next thing! there always is isn't there?

and get back to work m

we've got wriggly screamers in this house, all getting into bed together sounds fantastic, but will involve ds1 bouncing on us all i think, and getting annoyed at ds2 being too close.
thanks, think i will try the prqam next time

ds1 now asleep on sofa, have jsut put ds2 in his cot, and so far fingers xxxx all is ok.

now i have to pout kettle on and chill for 5 mins before clearing up the trashed kitchen and sorting out the nest meal!
i hate housework!

I do feel for you. I have ds1 (2 1/2) and ds2 (15 mths). I would bite the bullet and put them both in the same room. My ds2 has a few sleep issues - he rarely sleeps through the night - but there are some great benefits in having them in the same room as it really builds their relationship. They quite often will "talk" to each other from their beds and giggle and play in a way they don't when they are out and about. Pick a day when they are tired and are likely to pass out for an hour or 2. Mine now go to bed at the same time after lunch and it gives me a much needed break from them! Good luck!!

i think if i put a crying ds2in wit ds1 then there would be a riot.
ds1 hates to hear the crying and when he is tired, it causes a tantrum for ds1 so i then have 2 screaming children pawing at me...

this is one of the hardest things so far- i am tired, and it has been tricky to get them to sleep for past 3 evenings, and now am on my own again 9dh around at w/e) and find the whole thing a bit overwhelming.

As it is ds2 who will be having naps for a long time I would concentrate on getting him to sleep in their room in his cot. At this stage my dd sometimes needed a nap and sometimes didn't. I gave up on trying to make her go to sleep as it used to involve a huge battle and often ended in both of us crying . Instead I used to put her to bed in our room, and let her watch a video (we had one of those portable TV's with integrated video in the bedroom). Then she ould choose herslef whther to sleep or watch, but she wasn't allowed out of the bed until the video had finsihed, so I used to get at least 45 minutes break. If you don't have a video in your room try just Tv, or a story tape.

that sounds good prufrock... i am one of those "wooden toy, no tv" type mothers.
but wtf, what gets you through the day is the best course of action.
i hate tv, but do use it judiciously so this may be an issue where i learn to lighten up again

thanks everyone

they are still asleep!!

now do i wake them??
agh, i am really no good at this some days. it all goes a bit bonkers!

Hmmm. I think I would probably wake them. Def. ds1 but not so sure about ds2....

I dunno - you complain when they're not sleeping and then complain when they are sleeping....

Def wake them otherwise they'll never sleep tonight - mine go down between 6 and 7. Well done tho - you won't know yourself with all this spare time on your hands

I have two who need to nap, I put dd1 down to nap on the sofa in the sitting room, dd2 sleeps in the cot in my room.

Dunno how I managed it, but dd1 is aware that 2-4 is nap time and she is under no circumstances to come out of the room, sometimes she will play, and sing to herself, and look out of the window, and I will have to go in to her and tell her to go to sleep, and she will.

Both girls play half an hour after lunch, then both have a drink of milk and are put to bed, and they jolly well stay there till 4 or they sing/amuse themselves till they feel sleepy, I wake them at four otherwise they won't go down for sleep at 7:30.

I think dd1 first resisted this, but having another baby I couldn't cope with two sleep starved munsters, so adopted this routine. Dd1 initially did scream the place down for ooooh 3 minutes (possibly the longest minutes of my life), but when she realised I meant business, she happily took to it. Sometimes she will even take her pillow and blankets and put herself to sleep in the sitting room if I'm busy.......

Me too oops - but I figured that she should be asleep - which meant it was time when I didn't have to stimulate her, so watching TV wasn't cutting into "play" time. And I often used to put on the baby Einstein or Mozart videos so i could pretend it was educational -and I think they were very good lulling to sleep things rather than anything with an engrossing story

Hiya

Not sure what your house is like,but what about a travel cot in another room for one of them?