18-19-month sleep regression?

[Fazerina]

DS is a week shy of 19 months and has never been a very good sleeper, so by now I've pretty much given up and just rolling with the punches.. I was just curious to see what other toddlers are like at this stage.

DS takes one nap, usually 1-3, but needs resettling once mid-nap. He no longer really falls asleep on the breast so I pick him up and sing him back to sleep. BT is the same, so BF lying down and then I hold him and sing and put hom down, all in all this typically takes about 45min and he's typically asleep by about 8.30-8.45pm. He then wakes up at around 9.30 and DH goes in to resettle him and he wakes up again at around 10.30-11pm at which point we all go to sleep. We co-sleep and DS is in his 'side-car'-cot next to me. He wakes up every 1-2 hours throughout the night and won't settle without a BF. If I try to settle him in the night in any other way, he will throw a massive tantrum and no one gets any sleep so I just give up (I work naptimes and until late in the evenings from home, so the little sleep I get I'd rather have without a fight). Mostly he wakes up talking and sitting up so I'm thinking it's developmental (learning to speak). Also he has 6 teeth breaking through (he's a very late teether) so obviously that bothers him to an extent.

A friend of mine, whose DS, (four months older than mine) was very similar, recently stopped breastfeeding and now her DS sleeps through no problem at all. It all seems like magic in her case though: her DS was constantly BFing too day and night, so she's amazed how a month after telling him the milk's finished, he's only asked for a BF once and even then was easily distracted and in the night he never wakes for a BF any more !

I just wonder if anyone is in a similar situation and even better, if the ones with older toddlers could share their experiences.. How long is this likely to continue? Weeks? Months?

I'm marking my place as interested in any responses. I could have written your op but just substituted 19mo ds with 20mo dd. Exhausting isn't it?

Same here with 18mo DS. Not quite as bad in the early evening as he used to be (generally goes from 7pm-10:30pm which feels like such a bloody luxury). The rest is all exactly the same though.

Wau, good to know I'm not alone then:)!

And judging by your 20-month-old AllBellyandBoobs (great name btw!), we'll be rolling with the punches at least for a few more weeks to come then.. And I thought the newborn/small baby phase was bad...

It's a sadly all too accurate description of me :) I've read somewhere that this regression can actually last until 22 months which is a sobering thought. I'm not sure my dd actually has regressions though, she's a rubbish sleeper who is occasionally more rubbish than usually

Usual, not usually

Hm, that was not the news I wanted: 3 more months of this !

Right, yesterday evening was one of the worst examples of this madness so far: DS was up every 15-20 minutes after having "gone down" for the night! I must say though, it didn't really affect my evening too much, as DH was an angel and resettled him every time. But night wasn't much better and I now have sore hips for having to "sleep" on my side the whole night as DS was latched-on..

Hehe, re: your name BellyandBoobs, I can relate, hence the liking it ..

I'm in a similar situation with my dd (15 months) & remember going through a very similar phase starting at around 15 months ish with my ds until, well he regularly slept through when he was 3/4 ish...

having tried cc with my son & being strict about feeds before bed not through the night etc (before I'm gunned down it actually worked really well and with mininum distress) & having gone the ohter way with my daughter, co sleeping, bfeeding on demand (I feel your pain re: sore hips) I think sleep regression or no sleep regression - by now you'd know pretty much whether you've got a sleeper or a not so great sleeper on your hands.

What I did find with my son is that by night weaning it definitely reduced the amount of time he woke, I mean he still woke up in the night but he wasn't constantly faced with a bedtime drink on tap so when he woke it was just for a cuddle. The other thing about b'feeding through the night (which I found) is that your more likely just to latch them on to get them back off to sleep, regardless of the actual problem therefore it can become somewhat of a false crux for both of you... Hell, if co-sleeping & bfeeding worked beautifully for all of you then I'd say keep doing it & myself included! but, it sounds to me like he's hvaing a hard time settling himself & I wonder if in that case co-sleeping/BOD is more of a band aid solution that isn't actually working? There's always going to be sleep regressions/developmental spurts/teething/illness - you can get lost in it! but, I think at this age learning a few skills to self soothe can only be a good thing for everybody, even more so if they're a frequent waker x

Hi my 17 month old daughter has regressed so much in her sleeping over the last 2 weeks. We went on holiday and she got used to a bit of co-sleeping which i have not done much with her as i knew the consequences of it! But on holiday it was a quick fix for a middle of the night wake up in a strange hotel room. We got back a few days ago and she just wont sleep in her cot, i dont want to take her into my room as i want to break the co-sleeping. i try sleeping on the mattress next to her cot but she isnt calm until i bring her onto the mattress and she is close to me and then falls asleep. after a while i put her back in the cot but then she suddenly wakes up crying after an hour or so. she used to be a fairly good sleeper, going to sleep by herself in the day time and night time in her cot. she sweats so much on her head each time she cries...worried something is wrong?? she has not been like this bad before..can anyone help or had experienced similar situation...?

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