Ok, so without crying what are my options?

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Read the rather heated thread about CC the other week and don't think CC is for me. Also baby is 5.5 months so probably too small.

But she is very set in her ways. Feeds to sleep or gets walked round and jiggled, up and down stairs is best, until she is asleep. I am now struggling to carry her for long enough, sometimes it can be 1.5 hours walking for a 30 mins nap. But any deviation from this and she screams and screams. Purple in the face, real tears screaming. I've never lasted morecthan a few mins but i just know she would go for hours if i left it.

Just got the Millpond book and don't get why everyone reccomends it. Diagnosis is fine but the solution is CC or gradual withdrawal. Basically every story / case study starts with "on day 1 baby cried for 2 hours / 1 hour / too long and mum backed out....." i am trying to avoid this.

So far i have tried:

pantley put down. DD wakes up fully as soon as she hits the cot and starts screaming
Pick up put down. Tgis really drives DD mad, it's like i'm teasing her by picking her up but then not rocking her and walking round. The screams are piercing.
Gradual withdrawal. Tried this in conjunction with pantley and all that happens is i lie cuddling her while she screams. Then i give up.

I know the commin factor here is me giving up so i guess i just need to know if there is a genuine no cry sleep solution. Given the one in the book of that name didn't really work.

How much does she weigh OP?

In theory babies can do a 7 hour stretch once in 24 hours once they reach 5.5kg.

Figure out one thing and fix that first. Maybe stopping feeding to sleep? Or a more structured routine? Or only feeding at night at certain times (9, 1 and 5 for example). Maybe try a bottle of formula before bed? Or ditch routine all together and only put her down when she is so tired that she doesn't care how she sleeps as long as she sleeps. I tried this with dd too and contrary to what everyone said would happen (she would be more tired and would be unable to sleep) I found she actually did better.

Tbh if you're this tired and its so stressful getting your dd to sleep then it doesn't matter what you do as long as it works. I feel your pain. I also spent hours getting dd to sleep for 20 minutes. I started to hate bfing as I hated that human dummy feeling - for me feeding to sleep (which could take an hour or two) felt completely different to giving her a normal feed (which only took 20odd minutes).

Good luck.

Sorry that's... They can do a 7 hour stretch without food once in 24hrs.

Comrade, good to know the theory but feels a way off my current situation! Right now i'd settle for gettingvher down to one night feed.

I've really been working on things but it's all getting worse. I am close to my wits end.

Yesterday got 3 hours of naps done. So good news.
Then fed but not to sleep, got her to fall asleep in her cot (with me draped over her!). 7.30 Result!
Then....
9.30-10 dreamfeed (but she wakes up crying for it so not so dreamy)
11.45-12 woke up. I settled her back to sleep
1.45-2.30 woke up, i fed
3.30-4.20 woke up, tried to soothe but gave up and fed
5.15 -6 woke up. I rocked back to sleep twice but each time she was only asleep for 5 mins before waking screaming. I brought her into bed
7.30 fucking car alarm woke me
8am baby awake