ADVICE NEEDED:Moving baby into own room for 1st time

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Where do I start....

Well dd is 10 months old and is still sleeping with dh & I. Over the weekend we have decided that now may be the time to move her as she able to entertain herself when she wakes until we hear her and also she should not be to distressed with the move (maybe unlike if we left it months later etc)

Anyway thing is at the moment she is waking virtully every hour during the night, dh or I get up to give her a dummy and she goes off. Last night I left her "moaning/groaning" for a few minutes and she went off to sleep again. However this didn't happen each time. She also wakes sometimes during the night and just chats! Lovely sound but not at 3am!!

My question is "once we move her into her own room how does everyone cope with baby waking several times..??" What puts me off putting dd into her own room is this night waking.I feel that it would be easier to keep her in with us as it's easier to lean over a cot than to get up and go into her room..??!

What about the monitors.? Do you just turn them down a bit.? HELP.!!!!

Gosh didn't mean this to be to long. .

How far away is her room? When we moved ds into his own room - we didn't use anything cos I could hear full blown crying but not the moaning and every little sound.
They are old enough and tough enough to be able to cope with a couple of minutes of crying on their own and should only need to disturb you if they are really distressed.
or open the door a little as you go to your bed and then you could hear?

hi tracey,dd's room is opposite ours so we could hear her but dh & i are wanting to continue with her angelcare monitor as it checks if she is breathing...over cautious you see !

why would she stop breathing? does she have health probs??

no she doesn't have health problems but dh & I are so cautious over dd and this monitor ives us the reasurrance we need at the moment.

Really my concern is about the waking in the night,do we ignore her and she may go off or do others get up with their babies.? I understand though it depends if they are screaming..!

If I hear ds crying - I lie for a minute or so. Then if he doesn't go back to sleep - I get up and settle him. Not so much of a prob now that it's milder - pia during the winter.
But I usually find that by the time I get up, put the hall light on, open his door, gone sshhhh, gone for a pee - he's gone back to sleep!

typical! I suppose it's just the worry of doing something for the 1st time..

Also I think maybe (because dd is still with us) we are to quick to try and settle her or give her a dummy if she wakes etc. Judging by last nights episode, if I leave her for a min or so she will prob fall off to sleep..

Thanks Tracy. xx

I never had a monitor with either of our children - just left the doors open a bit. My friend starts counting to a hundred before she goes in and/or goes to the loo. Usually her children have gone back to sleep by the time way before she gets to a hundred. A bit of moaning and groaning in their sleep/ or waking up to chat for a bit is normal; in fact you are probably disturbing them more if you go in to see what the matter is. We only go in if the crying is real crying or seems to be continuing and/or getting louder! Our ds and dd (2yrs and 7 months respectively) are good sleepers - well ds was until he went into a bed but that's another story - so I think it works.

hi, sorry if im asking an obvious question but does your dd ever sleep in her own room? e.g daytimes naps, or just playing in there. i ask as i was advised that it is easier if the baby is comfortable with the surroundings.

also you never no but it may be u and ur dh that are disturbing her if she is a light sleeper, so she may not stir as much.

my dd is 10 months as well, but we had to put her in her own room at 2 weeks as dp snores and used to wake her up.

i have the monitor on the side next to my bed and we messed around with the settings. dp in the room making different sounds at different settings so i knew how much i could hear on what.

on a normal night i have it on a 3 as then i can hear her whn she cries, but not just the moans etc, but then on nights she is ill i have it higher to keep a better check.

sorry its so long. hope that helps. x

thanks, amyjo dd only sleeps in our room as the cot is set up there. She does however go into her own room for nappy changes etc and is happy to play etc in there.

Think thats good advice about the monitor. DH & I will make sure we know what setting to put the monitor on as we are more comfortable knowing we can hear her via the monitor.

Like you and em said, maybe dh & I are disturbing dd at night. Will see how we go at the weekend with the room change!!!

If ds (14m)wakes in the night, we ignore him basically! He hardly ever wakes anyway and if he does, he chats to himself and goes back off to sleep. We dont always use a baby monitor, but we live in tiny house anyway and the bedrooms are close.
Once your dd is in her own room you wont hear the 'chats' as much as when she is in your room.

We moved ds into his own room when he was a month old, but as I said we live in a tiny house, and we left the bedroom doors open for first few nights until we got used to the idea.

I do agree that when you share a room with lo, it can sometimes keep everyone awake, even getting up to go to the loo or turning over in bed can wake someone!

Have you ever tried a video monitor? We have a camera fitted in ds room, which can give piece of mind if you are anxious. Great for daytime naps too. I work very early hours and sleep when ds does and find the video monitor useful to keep by me when im sleeping.

we do also have the video monitor and dh suggested the same as you...tbh like everyone has said, it will prob be better for dd once she is on own and also for us ..hopefully!!!

DD is 6 months and has just gone into her own room (in the past week or so). We are already noticing an improvement in her nocturnal wakings - I think this is because we don't hear every snuffle and little cry she makes.

We have also been "ignoring" her for a few minutes (not for the screams obviously)

Thats really reasurring pc....it's such a big step to take and one I think most people worry about..grass being greener, out of the frying pan and all that !!!!

ds sleeps much better in his own room . I found out by accident that if I didn't go to hin straight away he often went back to sleep.

I was getting up to him crying and desperate for the loo so knowing I'd be a while settling him I went for a pee and by the time I got to his bedroom the crying had stopped.

Now I always wait about 1-2 minutes before going in. The worst part though is that sometimes he stops than starts again 1/2 an hour later. By then though I know he won't settle himself so I go in straight away.

Also I can usually tell by the sort of crying it is (i.e tired and half hearted) when he is likely to go back to sleep and if I go in it just makes him wake up. If it is this sort of crying I let him cry for up to half an hour which is the most I've ever had when he is doing what I call his 'I want to sleep but I can't moan'.

As for monitors - I turned that off really early on [embarrassed] but his room is next door to ours and we live in a small flat so with our door open we always hear him. In fact I can hear him even if he is just a bit restless.