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Waking up at night thinking baby in bed with us!!!

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sunandmoon · 18/03/2006 18:07

Does this happen only to me or to anybody else??? My baby is 8 months old now and since the day she was born, I wake up every night thinking she is in bed with us.(or sometimes I push my husband away thinking that he is sleeping on her or sometimes I think that he is our baby and I speak to him in a soft voice touching his face softly (he doesn't mind that much...)It is very tiring because I would wake up very worried! I always been a mad dreamer!!!

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beansprout · 18/03/2006 18:09

Same here, I kept thinking ds had fallen asleep on me and I used to panic as I didn't know where he was. And it just kept happening!!

K7 · 18/03/2006 18:24

Oh thank god I'm not the only one! I come out of my sleep thinking DD is next to me in bed and that I've squashed her. Was patting away at my pillow this morning. Am not alone! Hurrah!

WigWamBam · 18/03/2006 18:27

I used to do that too - it stopped when dd was about 9 or 10 months old, if that's any consolation!

Nemo1977 · 18/03/2006 18:29

also do it quite often. More so when I had ds but sometimes am convinced I have smothered DD in the bed...thing is she is actually in her own room..lol

K7 · 18/03/2006 18:35

Actually, this is quite interesting. I never imagined anyone else did it but now there's lots of us mad 'uns around...

Blandmum · 18/03/2006 18:36

This happened with both of mine when they were little. I used to wake, seaching madly in the bed!

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sunandmoon · 18/03/2006 19:04

Thank you so much for your reply... I thought I became mad!!!! I couldn't say it earlier but when I use to brestfeed her (for the 1st 6 months) I use to breastfeed my pillow at night... I did find it a bit embarrasing when I use to wake myself up with a pillow positionned the way my baby used to be!!!! It wasn't every night but many of them. Blush

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Littlefish · 18/03/2006 19:07

I don't do this, but my dh does. I get woken up at least once a night with him searching me to see if our dd is in the bed with us. The thing is, she's 16 months old now, and hasn't slept in bed with us since she was about 3 months old! Do you think he has an ulterior motive Grin?

fastasleep · 18/03/2006 19:07

my DH did this when pissed once! Found him hugging a cushion on the sofa (half asleep) going 'shhh shhh' was sooo funny..

Beabea · 18/03/2006 19:15

Yes I used to do this too. I cant remember when it stopped.

madmarchhare · 18/03/2006 19:17

Yes, I used to do it a lot. I now dream that Im pregnant again. I get the same panic as I used to do when I was younger and thought that someone had sneaked in and cut all my hair off (it was very scary at the time, honest)

ghosty · 18/03/2006 19:39

LOL ... DH thought I had lost it completely when I would wake him up in the night in a massive panic saying, "Where is it? Where is it? I can't find it!"

And he would say, "What? What have you lost?"
And then I would sob, still frantically searching in the duvet, "The baby, I can't find the baby!"
DS never slept in our bed btw ... Smile
When I was pregnant with DD I woke up regularly in a panic in the night thinking that I had forgotten to take something, a pill or something that would keep the baby in my tummy ... that really freaked me out. Once I even 'came to' in the bathroom, searching in the medicine cabinet for this 'pill' ... that was scary ...

beansprout · 18/03/2006 19:40

This must be based on some twist in the mummy instinct if we are all having it?!

Boopert · 18/03/2006 19:43

Yeah happens to us all. Even my dh suffered with it. I'd find him looking under the bed thinking he'd put the baby there! WTF???! He is also a mad dreamer....Blush
Stopped when ds was about 12mths.

sleepingbag · 18/03/2006 19:55

Glad to hear i am not the only one,used to do it all the time up until DH was about 1yr, he is now19mths. Last time though was a few weeks ago when on romantic weekend away with DH (DS with granma), DH thought i was joking as i woke him up panicking as couldn't find Ds, was looking under cover ect...

chocolateshoes · 18/03/2006 20:08

So glad I'm not the only one!! And the dreams are soooo real! I'm having them less and less - DS is nearly 9 mths, thank goodness!

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sunandmoon · 18/03/2006 20:15

So I do have few more months to dream madly!!! And hopefully when she is 12 months, I would have time to dream for myself Grin

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Dottydot · 18/03/2006 21:27

I used to do that all the time! Weird really because ds2 was only in bed with me for the first 2 nights when I was in hospital, and then at home he went in his Moses basket for 2 weeks and then into his own bedroom!! Blush

But I used to dream/imagine he was in bed with me and I'd wake up all the time panicking that I'd squashed him..!

he's nearly 2 now and I'd forgotten all about that until I read this thread - it must have stopped sometime in his first year but it was such a vivid and scary feeling..!

starlover · 18/03/2006 21:29

ds has NEVER slept in our bed and yet DP used to do this all the time! strangely i never did! lol

woke up one night to find him pulling my arm and going "Linus, come over here" !

BettySpaghetti · 18/03/2006 21:37

Had to laugh when I read this as we did it when we had our first but didn't with our second.
We'd sit bolt upright and be frantically patting the bed all around us trying to find DD (yet she never slept in with us).
Wonder why we never did this with DS as we had the same set up with both of them -moses basket then cot.

emkana · 18/03/2006 21:41

Well our dd's did sleep with us all through their first year and I used to wake up every night screaming, picking them up and shaking them sometimes, because I used to have such vivid dreams in which I would find them dead. Shock Blush
Used to really freak dh out!

skinnymalinky · 18/03/2006 21:47

I suddenly grabbed DH one night when he tried to roll over because i thought he was DS and was going to fall out the bed! DH nearly shit himself! HEHE Grin

LeahE · 18/03/2006 21:57

I did it a lot -- seem to have stopped now, though. And my mother says she did the same. Both my mother and I have a tendency to wake up at night convinced of weird things in general, though (her best: a helicopter has just landed in the garden) and our DHs have just had to get used to it. Having DS just seems to have given it a focus.

mandymac · 18/03/2006 22:01

I used to be convinced I had fallen asleep whilst breastfeeding dd in bed and panic that she had gone, when she was of course happily asleep in her moses basket next to the bed. I think sleep deprivation had a lot to do with it.

leonsmum · 18/03/2006 23:08

The exact same thing used to happen to me! The worse time was one night when DH came to bed late and I 'stopped' him from getting into bed for about 10 minutes telling him our DS was there. He was groping around in the darkness trying to find DS and eventually got really annoyed and started raising his voice. Him: 'Where's DS?' Me: 'In his cot, why did you have to wake me up!!!"

I started co-sleeping half the night with DS at about 7 months and thats when it stopped obviously!