10 month DS waking every hour (our less). I can't cope!!

[Munchkinsmama]

Please help me, I'm doing my best to cope but am struggling.

My ds is 10 months and has been in a sleep regression for 3 months. I keep saying oh it's this, oh it's that. But it's gotten progressively worse. For at least 6 weeks he's been suckling for comfort. Probably longer. I'm not quite sure how it started. But I think he's become dependent on it. He goes down at night fine, but now at his first wake I bring him into my bed as nothing other than a feed/nurse will settle him. This is now 10.30-11.

This was ok to start as he was waking anytime from 1am and then a couple of times after that. But for the past couple of weeks he's been waking 1-2 hourly, and the past three days every hour and even every 20mins. Even co-sleeping this is taking a massive toll on me. He wants to nurse at every wake. If I don't let him he just cries uncontrollably. Which I can't bare. we've also just often over mastitis, probably because of his sucking.

I'm trying to taking him off the breast after a short suckle to try and prevent him from falling asleep sucking. It as variable success, but it's not impacting on his number of wakes.

CC and such other techniques just aren't an option for me. I'm trying to give him what he wants. And I genuinely want to just continue to. But I'm a tired, stressed mess. I feel like a total failure and I'm weeping all the time.

Teething, yes I've put it down to that. But his most recent tooth made an appearance at the weekend and he seems ok now. He's been crawling for 3 months.

I don't know what to do to help him sleep better / help me cope better.

This was pretty much where I was about a month ago, the mastitis, cosleeping, not wanting him to cry - all of it. I also for to the point where I couldn't cope, I also found a couple of times I made really stupid mistakes when driving and it was that which made me address it.

We tried the No Cry Sleep Solution book Whig had lots of helpful points but which was too slow moving and the gentle removal things just wasn't working. After a stern talking to from my sister we then tried the method from the thread on here which is called something like 'what worked for us hope this helps'. It really did work!

My DS who's 9 months did cry but because I wasn't leaving the room (and I did pick him up when I felt I needed to) o wasich happier than jut leaving him to cry. I have to say tho that I couldn't have done it any earlier - for us the time was right and I was ready. I also cut down on the night feeds so I just fed him at 11ish then 4ish and then cut down again to just once to not at all - all over the space of a week.

The one thing I did realise when I started is that by feeding him to sleep I hadn't let him learn how to get to sleep on his own and as hard as it was for him to start with he issue so much happier now he can self settle. I also think he's more independent and less clingy but that could just be his age I suppose.

I hope this helps a little - there's a reason they use sleep deprivation as a form of torture!

Bah. Must remember to preview before posting....sorry!

Gosh I came on here to post a VERY similar thing OP so although I am no help I will be watching with interest and feeling for you :)

DD is 11 months and has slept through for 3 nights then the last 3 nights has been waking every 1-3 hours (prior to this she could wake anything from 6 times a night to just 1 or 2).

I start a new job on Monday so where's before I could cope with it now I am panicking.

I do not like the thought of letting her cry and end up bf feeding her too but then arguing with DH as he wants to give her water/she is not interested in the water. Yawn!! :(