Won't sleep without feeding and won't go to anyone but me...HELP

[samie10]

My baby is 18 days old. Days 1-14 perfect - slept and ate, would go to anyone, loved the car-seat, we were able to go out and about. since then she will not stop crying until fed to sleep, feeding pretty much constantly and if i leave her when i think she is sleeping and she wakes she will not settle with anyone but me, where the whole feeding to sleep process starts over. What are we doing wrong? I can't even go to the toilet without her crying and waking. This is only during the day, when we go to bed at night she will feed to sleep at around midnight. She has also developed a hatred for the car-seat in the last few days and we can't go out....please help!

Didn't want to read and run- hate to say it but it all sounds perfectly normal for a newborn. I remember taking my dd into the loo with me and laying her on the bath mat whilst I had a wee. Just try and take a deep breath and relax. have a look on kellymom and the dr sears website if you feel you'd like some suggestions to help you lo sleep. But it will get better, I promise x

Oooh forgot to say that the car seat thing is horrid but they get used to them. Could someone sit in the back with them and sing to keep the quiet? X

Yes this is absolutely normal newborn behaviour and it does come as a shock after a week or so of them being much sleepier doesn't it? You have two options - try and train her to like her carseat, go to anyone and not feed to sleep (which could either work - not with either of my babies but some seem to go for it - or make you all utterly miserable), or go with what she wants as much as possible for now and she will get more settled as time progresses.

This stage really does pass very quickly. It just feels very looooong at the time because you are so tired. Could you try letting your husband have her in a sling while you sleep for an hour or two? Many babies will do that.

Going to sleep at midnight is really not too bad either, if you get a block of sleep. Have you tried co sleeping? If you can feed lying down you can doze while your baby feeds.

Agreeing with previous poster - normal behaviour, based on my own baby's behaviour when new. I'd just go with it for the moment as far as you can. You're not doing anything wrong at all, OP - your baby is just very new and all she wants is your milk and your smell and presence. I know it's exhausting, but it's not in the least abnormal, and it will pass surprisingly fast.

Sympathies re the carseat - I had the same experience with my newborn refusing to go in the pushchair without hysterical screaming, but while I was in total despair, it passed very quickly. Looking back, it was because he was too new and small to see me when he was in the pram, and he got scared. Might be the same with your baby - can you sit beside him in the car? It probably won't last long as a phase.

Aw your baby is so tiny and just wants to be with mama :) your her whole world! My 6 month old is still like this has only recently tolerated anyone else holding her! It can be tough but just try to go with it and don't stress that you've done or are doing anything wrong it's normal x