DD will only settle for me

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DD is just over 7m old and we've been having horrendous issues with her sleep. Since she started weaning, she's been waking hourly every night ( so six weeks now). She has an allergy and eczema which started when we weaned which doesn't help and so we've been reluctant to try and address the issues whilst she had problems (I just bought while she has actual problems, whatever works) but I'm getting desperate.

I don't think these issues are causing the problem now. She often feeds to sleep and sleeps on my shoulder so we're trying PUPD tonight which seems to be going well so far. The main problem is because we BF and my shoulder seems to be her sleep trigger, I'm the only one that can settle her. DH used to be able to settle her but for the last six weeks if he picks her up she gets hysterical and reaches for me if I'm in the room or gets into a huge state if I'm not.

I thought it best to try the PUPD technique and get her self settling first. Do you think that'll solve the problem of her not settling for DH at the same time?

He will be her primary carer in 5 weeks so we need to sort this.

Thank you for any advice!

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shameless bump, I'd love to hear if anyone else knows how to get over a baby's reliance on one person. If DH could settle her I'd be less knackered.

My dd is 5 months and hit a phase recently when she would only settle for me. It was a pita as it ment I never got a break (I bf too) but also a bit worrying as we had decided to share parental leave and dp has 3 months off to look after her while I go back to work 3 days a week.

We had been absolutly prepared for him to spend the first few days with a screaming non-sleeping baby but actually it was fine. He has had her for 2 weeks now and settles her for naps in the pram. Not only has she settled fine for him in the pram during the day but he can also now help out in the evening by going in and settling her when she wakes but doesn't need a feed.

To be honest I think the fact that I was about at all ment that dd would simply cry until I came over and dp could never really just get on with it as he knew I was there worrying and checking up on them. I think the best thing someone said to me about it was to remind me of the many, many times I spent on my own with her crying trying to get her to sleep and to point out that it really wasn't that much of an issue if dp had to do the same thing for a bit. In the end she will sleep for him and he will deal with it because he will have to.

Now if we could only sort out the bottle refusal so easily... :o

Thank you so much for your answer Hearmyroar it sounds like we have similar situations.

I also have a breastfed bottle refuser and a DH who will be taking over as primary career for three months while I go back to work 4 days a week. We have 5 weeks to go and I feel more reassured that we'll sort this out.

It's just so knackering having to do all the night wakings. I have a super supportive DH who'd like to help so I'm so lucky but can't take full advantage at the moment. We've been working on this over the weekend though and it's getting better, even if it's not entirely there yet.

We were just the same before I went back to work, it does sounds like we have almost exactly the same situtation!

But I am so glad we have arranged it this way as after only 2 weeks it's been amazing to see how dd's relationship with dp has changed. She is already so much more relaxed with him and he is also much more confident with her. I feel like the pressure has been taken off me a lot now and I am sure it's happened much quicker then it would have done if he hadn't taken this time with her.

Currently dd is having to come into my work at lunchtime for a feed (I only work a few mins away from home), but dp managed to get her to take some milk from a sippy cup today so I am hopefull this won't continue for too much longer.

If your dp is anything like mine he will have a couple of weeks of looking a bit shell shocked as he realises just how much work it is having a baby all day on his own but he will love it and it will get easier. :o

Glad to hear dd's relationship with your DH improved so much. We're doing sippy cup training at the minute, the doidy is going well. Things seem to be improving already here. :)