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11 month old not sleeping

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jan2011 · 13/08/2012 07:57

sometimes she is waking 5 times a night. i bf her, then put her down again - i am desperate for some sleep, dh not here anymore. please help. should i ring the hv or wil she just give bad advice? i don't want to do cio or anything.

she usually gets 2 naps a day most about 35 mins each (sometimes earlier nap is longer)

she feeds to sleep but often wakes as i put her in so can go to sleep on her own (well with help of the mobile and whilte noise)

i feel exhausted and struggling to cope

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forcedinsomnia · 14/08/2012 10:36

I feel your pain. My ds did this for ages!!! He is now 12 mo and not doing bad. I used the no cry sleep solution for a few hints and tips (didn't follow it to the word!!) and also deffinately stopped feeding to sleep.
Sounds like she may be overtired. Can you get any more nap time out of her in the day? This helped me also.
What is your bedtime routine? How well, what time and how much does she eat in the evening?
I make sure my ds (12 mo) has a high carb dinner about 5-5.30 for a 7pm bedtime - after bath and milk.
I know it feels like it will never get better....but you can cope. I'm sure you're doing a fantastic job.
Hopefully someone else will come with more suggestions
Good luck. Smile

forcedinsomnia · 14/08/2012 10:42

Also meant to say...have you tried offering water at night wakings? If she knows she's not getting milk when she wakes she may not bother waking!! Worth a try???

icravecheese · 14/08/2012 10:55

my 10 month old was doing exactly the same up until last week - sleeping from 7pm til 10.30pm, then waking for a feed (which I did, because I was just so knackered & couldnt face doing anything else) then waking every 2 hours after that thru the night. She was just latching on, the lying there, not even bothering to suck because she just wanted me as a comfort, not to feed.

Last week I snapped though, & couldnt take it anymore. I figured if I could get her back off to sleep after the 10.30pm wake-up WITHOUT feeding her, then it might help things... so that's what I did.

I started last Wednesday night, she woke (like clockwork) at 10.30pm, and it took me until 11.30pm to get her back off (sitting by cot & patting / stroking / shushing her, a couple of pick-ups & cuddles, but that seemed to piss her off even more because she thought she was going to get a feed,so i suggest not taking her out of cot if you can help it!). She then slept til 4am when I bf her, and she went down fine til morning.

Thurs & fri night it only took 45mins to get her back off at 10.30pm without the BF but with patting / stroking her tummy etc - both times she slept through til 4am, when I was happy to BF her at that hour.

Sat night she rallied & it took me til 1am to get her back off...arghhh! But sunday night she was fab and slept through from 7pm til 4am!! Last night she went 7pm-2am, when I fed her, then she slept til 6am. I know I need to drop the 2am (or 4am, or whatever time feed!) she wakes for, but at least now I'm only bf her once at night, which is MUCH more manageable.

Hope that helps - stick with it, it'll feel tough trying to get baby back to sleep without the feed, and she will inevitably cry because she's annoyed with you that she's not getting a BF. But she WILL go back off eventually, and it should only take a few nights of pain to make the gain! I am planning on dropping the early hours feed once baby is regularly doing 7pm - 3am (or whatever time in the morning she wakes). I won't, however, feed her if she wakes any earlier than 2am - she will be patted / shushed back to sleep if she wakes before then, 2am is the cut-off for me!

Good luck - you'll get there I promise!

icravecheese · 14/08/2012 11:00

ps my daughter only naps for 35 mins twice a day, which I know isnt anywhere near enough, but she just won't stay asleep for any longer!

jan2011 · 16/08/2012 06:45

thanks so much for your replies...am reading just no time or energy to respond and sleeing getting worse...bringing her to my bed as a result and bf continually

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musicianmum · 16/08/2012 21:23

Hello. This is my first post! I'm going through this right now with my 11 month old too. Too tired to write full history now but just wanted to say hello, I'm there too. Still feeding to sleep countless times and dh (when here) rocking dd to sleep. Love to feed her to sleep and sleep with her but she's now waking so often we're exhausted. She has slept very well in the past, but we seem to have slipped back to her sleep pattern of 7 months ago...

musicianmum · 16/08/2012 21:23

Hello. This is my first post! I'm going through this right now with my 11 month old too. Too tired to write full history now but just wanted to say hello, I'm there too. Still feeding to sleep countless times and dh (when here) rocking dd to sleep. Love to feed her to sleep and sleep with her but she's now waking so often we're exhausted. She has slept very well in the past, but we seem to have slipped back to her sleep pattern of 7 months ago...

musicianmum · 16/08/2012 21:55

Oops! First post twice, sorry!

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