Co-sleeping with toddler and new baby will sleep!!!. Really unsafe sleeping arrangements- pls help

[Roxymm]

Currently. Have a 14month toddler co-sleeping with me an hubby. He used to be asleep by 9pm. Sinc having my new baby who is 4 days old he's been going bed really late. Sometimes at 11pm. My husband works nights and he can't help much, extended family are really busy to help.

Toddler is really unsettled with baby being in room an crying. It's waking him up early as 5am and i Don't get to bed till 1am. And I am breast feeding but feel like I am havin no sleep so feel like I am being forced to choose between breast feeding and bottle feeding him, as the say bottle fed babies are more settled in sleep and sleep longer.

The new baby does not sleep in his moses basket at all. My husband I being forced to sleep on floor when he gets in at 2am. And I am having to stick baby in with me and toddler. This is unsafe, I'm not sleeping and toddler a heavy boned boy.

We havent the rooms ail available to put toddler in own room or bed and he goes hysterical when we tried cot. We don't have the cot available any more because we had to make room fo the Moses basket.

Can anyone help m get toddler back on bedtime routine, with new baby in room as I have no where to leave ne baby in busy household. And more than anything help me get baby in basket?!

Good morning roxy :)
I've re-read your thread and tbh I know we have all been giving you good advice but it sounds like you just need some sleep and another pair of hands to help. Poor you. It is so hard at first. Hang on in there. You are all adjusting
From your older baby's pov, everything has changed. Feeding, sleeping, attention from mummy, annoying new crying thing. All his behaviour will soon settle down. It is quite normal for them to regress when a new baby arrives and he is still a baby himself in many ways. Don't worry about any of his sleep patterns now. It's a bit like when you go on holiday and all your routines go out of the window
When mine were that age I actually went and stayed with my mum for a few weeks so I had more help and support. Is anything like that possible in the short term?
Above all, don't worry about any sleep 'patterns' 5 days in, spend as much time as pos chilling on the sofa and spend time with the toddler doing puzzles or crayoning or reading so he feels reassured (but nothing knackering for you!)
(((Hugs)))

Morning Roxy hope you got a good nights sleep. It is very early days, i only came home on day 4. Rest up and enjoy lots of cuddles with both your babies x

suba we co-slept/tandem fed for a year and tbh even 2 years down the line - they still come in with us - we jammed a cot in there but we never used it - occasionally older would climb in for fun!! I'm pregnant again and this time - I'm not even having a cot - not sure how 5 of us are going to fit mind you!

I'd advise putting toddler in bed under blanket - baby and mum on top with their own blanket - this would effectively prevent toddler rolling onto baby.

I don't think stopping feeding because a new baby has arrived is going to work tbh - tandem feeding was hard at first - but effectively baby fed from one boob - toddler the other and my body adjusted.

Alot better after getting atleast 6 hours sleep. Someone has suggested the sleepyhead deluxe bed guard for baby. It's got 4.9 rating. Apparently gets baby out of arms an asleep in carry.

I dont want to tandem feed as my toddler is not asking for it he just lovingly puts hos head on my chest and goes sleep after a long walk round the house/bedroom.

I'm gna try taking him to bed a little later tonight. At 8:30 and see what happens. Also i got planned to buy him a sofa bed so he still feels special and thats hos special place. It will go in his new bedroom, so arleast its constant and hubby can come back to bed.

What do u all think?

Am not gna force toddler to sleep on his minj sofa bed. Just let him no it's there for him.

Hi guys

Sorry same topic again.

My toddler has fallen ill from lack of sleep and a viral infection. No one else can comfort him apart from me. How did you all cope with toddler and nb? What can i do to make the situation better and offer hom the comfort and rest ge needs but still keep nb next to me so i can bf

It is grim when one is ill- even grimmer when they are both ill at the same time! I used to hole up in bed with both of them, cuddling up with the toddler and bf the baby. It is hard adjusting to two, but you get used to it. I remember being actually shocked when they were both crying for me at the same time! I'd forgotten about that until now. You don't get the support and sympathy with baby 2 that you do with a first, for some reason, even though it is a big shift. Honestly nothing really helps but time, because you just work it all out. Your toddler gets used to sharing you too. This is all very new for you, it will get better. Let everything but the children go to pot and get help if you have people who will shop or bring food etc. Hope your little ds is better soon.

Try a loud fan in the room which will partially block the noise of the baby for ds1 and maybe help all to sleep better. I do agree with tandem feeding also and esp with keeping baby with you and feeding him while settling ds1. It will get better honestly and just keep thinking how nice it will be for them to have a brother to play with when they are older. Oh and I don't think bottle fed babies really are much better. Just look up wind reflux problems on google and most of the posts seem to come from bottle fed babies mothers

Hey Roxy

I know this is a super old thread. It came up on google. Just wondering how it all turned out? I really felt for you reading the post. It must have been such a hard time. I am pregnant again and co sleeping with 16 month old and wondering how it will all turn out.

I bottlefed and i can say bottlefed babies don't necessarily sleep longer.