My DH and I are just completely at a loss at the moment, in relation to my 20 month old DS. Every since he turned around 12-13 months his nighttime sleep has really gone downhill. He used to consistently sleep through the night in his first year and then it started with early waking (5am 5.30am) and then that became 4am or 3.30am, then he would have some good nights and now he waking at around 11pm or 12pm and won't re-settle. He only settles in our bed or with a bottle. We are doing everything wrong and suddenly we have him in our bed which I said I would never do. His day time sleeps are now virtually non-existent - one nap for 45 minutes. He often wakes from them crying so clearly still tired but won't go back to sleep. It seems his ability to self settle has been lost somewhere along the way.
I think the day time sleeps are linked to the night time sleeps but I just can't seem to make any changes. We try different things - I will lie by his cot at night and he will then often fall back asleep. I just am concerned he isn't getting enough sleep and it's starting to get me depressed and overtake everything else in my life because it's all I think about.
Does anyone have any experience, advice, words of wisdom to share? One thing I should add - is sometimes at night it seems as if he is uncomfortable in his stomach? He farts a bit and he will fall asleep and start snoring then wake and cry a bit a short tme after then fall asleep and then wake etc etc. So it's as if he can't get comfortable. Perhaps I am overanalysing it?? I just wondered whether it could be wind?
Thanks