HARD CORE SLEEP DODGERS TURNED GOOD

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OK, i've probably posted loads on here already but Im at another breaking point tonight after 3 hours trying to get my just turned 7 month old breast fed dd to sleep. i wont bore you all again with the details, basically for 4 months now she wakes every 1-2 hours through the night and for the last 2 months takes on average 2.5 hours to settle. I AINT DOING THE CRYING THING. tried that felt sick doing it. no thanks.
just somebody tell me PLEASE about their HARD CORE sleep resisters if you have had one and when they got good and how you did it or what you think happened (i keep hoping when she gets moving will burn off energy?).
if this is just a phase we are going through, its a bit of a bloody long one. i need to hear more positive stories again.

Well, 7 months and did controlled crying

hi blackoutthesun, how long did he/she cry for and how many nights did it take ? its just that we tried the staying in the room with them method and dd cried for 3 hours and the next night the same and i just couldnt take it.

My DS2 was terrible until 18 months and then just started sleeping 12-13 hours.

I was suicidal OP and DH was funny about co-sleeping, but when we did, it was much easier to reach out a hand and pat him. He would be reassured quickly and go to sleep rather than me getting up 10 times and wanting to murder him.

He would usually go to bed ok, it was just the rest of the night... but something clicked at around 18 months, maybe something physical maturing, neurons connecting, which meant he was able to sleep through

OP, this will pass, but it is incredibly difficult now. You will get through it and get a full nights' sleep on day (hopefully soon).

Would you not consider sleeping with DD until she matures a little? It means you don't have to get up out of bed?

nologo, sounds like you def had a hard time!!

youve just asked the million dollar question!! we have a co sleeper bed now so i dont have to get up (fantastic been a god send frankly) but she is getting too big for it and dh is getting a bit funny with me about co sleeping

(very often i leave my boob out and put her next to me in bed but mega uncomfy). he thinks we need to get her in her cot and in her own room asap.

i would be happy to co sleep until she is bringing boyfriends home but i read a stupid freaking book today about babies to toddlers and it said that there had been a study of babies who co slept finding it harder to sleep as they got older etc and it really worried me.

when i think about going back to work (when she is 12 months) it sends me in to a panic, im a shift worker and if she doesnt sleep through the night and stop wanting boob she will be screaming her head off for me and i might not even be working nearby.

It took 30mins the first night (with me going in and checking her) by the third night it was a bit of a moan.

Do hope you find something that works soon, I still remember the shitty broken sleep

thanks black, i think i could cope with one or the other, you know, if she went to sleep easy and then woke up lots or was hard to get to sleep but then stayed asleep but both makes me want to scream at her (i dont i just sing nursery rhymes with swear words in them softly - i hope she doesnt remember).
i think 30 mins crying would be handleable but mine is a bit more hard core, she likes to get a sweat on and really excerise her lungs for a good few hours at least.

When I co-slept with my dd and it was taking forever to settle her back to sleep, looking back I think it was me keeping her awake iyswim. She did seem to think sleep was for the weak and was at my wits end so did CC. I was shocked that it only took the 30mins tbh.

DD is a sleep resistor. 23 months and still up 3-4 times. we 'think' it's reflex which is now sorted but she has learnt bad habits. she was always always worse before a development leap, so rolling was bad, crawling was just diabolical but pre walking nearly caused dh and I to consider a separation. I will not do controlled crying, my daughter is unable to ta.lk so cannot tellus what is wrong but if she still doesn't sleep at three v then I will have a breakdown! !! she now sleeps in her for until

now sleeps in her cot until she wakes when one of us goes into the spare room with her. we alternate nights and she is night weaned for most nights. except when ill or teeth ing.

Check out my name I was you
Crying made no difference
.... Till 1 night when I was so broken a fell asleep in spare room and slept through it
I was woken in morning (well from 2am to645am so progress) with a chirpy DS and dh, turns out he got bored of bawling and zzz instead
And the. It got better, gradually but defo better
At 11mo nursery was knackering him and the elusive through the night started
Thee is light at end of tunnel I promise

my dd1 slept 7 pm til 1 am and then woke every hour on a bad night to Bf. We could not shift that longer sleep, we tried everything. She slept in cot next to my bed.

At around 7 months I decided she didn't need feeding at night, (and I couldn't deal with the lack of sleep) so when she woke at 1 am I cuddled, offered her water and put her back down. She cried for 30 mins, I comforted every 5 mins. (felt like hours)
She then slept through til morning instead of waking every hour.
Next night cried for 15 mins
3rd night wimpered
then slept through

Irony is that she then became my most sleepy child and now at 7 needs more sleep than the older and younger one