My DD has been through some big sleep-related changes recently, and of course I now wonder if it's all been too much. She used to co-sleep with me and DH and although she started the night in a cot, she rarely spent the whole night there. She was bf throughout, almost literally I'm afraid.
She is 2yrs 1month
I have, thanks to tips on here, tried to do things in stages. Moved her to her own room and a big bed but spent 2 weeks sleeping in there with her. Then 2 weeks ago today I stopped bf. We had 2 terrible days and nights but I was firm and consistent, apologised to neighbours, etc. Then a breakthrough - despite it taking a very long time to get her to bed at night, she did 3x 9 hr sleeps - unprecedented. Having wailed bitterly for booby, she has not mentioned it much since the first 48 hrs and clearly understands it has gone. I rejoiced, but of of course the last week has been dreadful and I am also waiting to see the GP because I have developed extraordinary thirst and peeing (my hope is it's hormones due to stopping bf, cos I feel like I did when pg) but between that and DD I have had a mindwrecking night. Am getting worried about our upstairs neighbours as well - they were charming about potential noise but I did say we hoped the worst would be over in a week.
DD knows when she is tired and at nursery she tells staff this after lunch and takes herself off for a nap. She did this once at home last weekend which I also thought was brilliant.
So, now I am cheering myself up, she's been through huge changes and it's not surprising she wakes in the night calling out. I think the problem is the lack of a clear plan by DH and I - we make a tentative plan but then waver, for example I have felt strongly she shouldn't get into the habit of milk during the night but at 3.20am when she was screaming the flat down and demanding milk, I gave her some, sitting in the kitchen because the other problem as well as neighbours is she has been keeping our 5yr old DS awake and last night we worked hard to ensure he got 12 hours sleep. So that's another positive.
I just want a hand hold really, but advice would be gratefully received too. Sorry this is long, I am feeling deranged.