What time do you put your 2.5yr olds to bed

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My DD is 2.5 and has gone to bed at 6.30 every night from 13 months old and slept right through. But lately she is refusing to go to sleep we get tears and tantrums for hours. It's really getting me down.

And I just wonder is 6.30 too early for her age.

between 7 and 8 usually. 7 is the earliest he's ever gone to bed.

it will sometimes be a bit later if he's slept later for a nap.

About 8. He then sleeps till 0630. Stopped napping at 18 months. Earlier bedtimes just mean earlier waking for DS, he just doesn't need much sleep. 0630 sounds very early to me

2.10 DD is put to bed between 6.30 and 7.30, depending on whether she's had a nap. Whether she falls asleep early is a different matter. She plays in her room for a while then goes back to bed. Usually asleep between 7-8. Wakes up and plays about 6.30. Wants me by 7.30.

Anytime between 7 and 8. He is usually up between 6 and 7. He won't have day time naps anymore; although we lay and cuddle in bed most afternoons - i.e we have quiet time. My ds is 2.6 and we went through a phase of screaming and not wanting to go bed that is when we stopped the naps.

She doesn't nap and hasn't done since 12 months old. We're up everyday (except Weekends) at 6 so I can leave for work at 7. I can't work out If she isn't tired or if she just wants to stay up.
I just don't no what to do

Has she got some books in her room? When DS isnt sleepy but it's bedtime, he'll often look at his books before he drops off. But he knows he has to stay in his room and be quiet, on his own. I think if they know they won't get anything out of it, the tantrumming should pass.

If it was me I would try 30 mins later for a few nights and see if it helps? If you're spending that time dealing with a tantrum youre not losing out anyway :)

Ds is 2.10 and goes to bed at 7.40. We've also had screaming abdabs recently with DS trying to come back downstairs and saying it's not bedtime because it's still light. We're showing him 7 on the clock when we go up to bed, and are letting him choose whether he stays in bed a plays with a quiet toy for 10 minutes after lights out, rather than presuming he'll go straight to sleep.

It seems to give him some element of control. He can chose to go straight to sleep, or to settle himself down in the 10 minutes playtime, or I'll go back up after 10 minutes and ask him to settle down. If he gets out of bed the toy goes, but he's only got out so far because he's dropped something, and got straight back into bed. It seems to be working for us.

I'll try putting her down at 7 tonight n see what happens. She has a playroom next to her bedroom. She doesn't want to play or be entertained in anyway she just wants to get in with me and DH, in our bed. Which we have never done

If he has had an hour nap in the afternoon then bed is at 7.30pm, if no nap then 7pm. He will wake up any time between 6 am and 8 am depending on his active he has been that day

DS naps for up to 2 hrs still (he's 2.5) so I don't get him off to sleep till about 8.30pm - but he sleeps till about 7.30/8 in the morning which suits us much better. I couldn't cope with a 6.30 start!

DS2 (2.3) goes upstairs for bathtime at 6.20pm and lights usually go out just after 7.40pm (he shares with DS1, who's 5).

They get to choose a story each and if I sense they're still skittish, I'll read another on the understanding that it's a big treat and they must go straight to sleep afterwards. It usually works.

Has been much easier since they shared a room, btw. Mine definitely like not being alone, so maybe she'd be happier to drift off if you left her listening to music or an audiobook?

Ooh, and I find they are much harder to settle at night if they haven't had any one-to-one time with me during the day. If that's the case, I have to resist the urge to run downstairs to wine/MN/supper/DH, and spend a few minutes stroking heads and reminding them all the clever/happy things they've done that day, telling them how loved they are etc. Makes them go to sleep with smiles on their faces!

Somewhere between 7.30 and 9.00 depending on what we're doing that day. I have to get up at 5.15 a.m. in the week so I will often go with her (we still sometimes cosleep). I wake her at 6.15 a.m. in the week, so she is still having a daytime nap most days. Her natural wake up time is about 8.00 a.m. - 9.00 a.m. so we get a nice lie in at the weekends. If she sleeps late she manages without a daytime nap.

Puffpants I thought I would cope with them but we have got in to a nice routine when I get everything ready the night before lol.

Voiletroses we get around 2 and a half hours together each day after I finish work (I work at one end of the street, nursery is at the other and we live in the middle lol)

I just think this is a she is getting older thing, myDH thinks she is just playing.

Well tonight was better than previous nights but still needs work maybe a few nights of 7pm and we will see from there