My nearly 2yo DS shares a room with my 4 year old DD. They go to bed at the same time (7pm) and both settle independently. They've been doing this since he was 10 months. When he was about 15 months old he suddenly started refusing to be resettled in his cot when he woke in the night. The first night when I hdn't got up to speed with his new phse he screamed his head off for three hours in between y barious attempts to settle him. Eventually, to give DD a break, I took him to my bed where he settle immediately.
He now comes in every night at some time between 10 and 2. He sleeps pretty well then although is a very early waker. He is currently getting more and more reluctant to go to bed in his cot though I am insisting on this or DD will start getting bent out of shape too.
It is disruptive in that I am woken every night, DH finds it difficult to stay in the bed as DS kicks him and won't settle with him there. He soetimes wakes DD and she will often come in as she is jealous and knows he is there.
I have allowed it as it has seemed the easiest thing to get as much sleep for everyone possible, but I I'm wondering where to go from here.
Should I just wait for him to grow out of it?
Should I force the issue and sleep train him to stay in his cot? And if so how?
He is very very mummy-orientated right now.
I have thought that I could take DD into my room once she's asleep so she doesn't lose out on sleep. It doesn't seem fair to inflict sleep training him on her.