trying to teach to self settle...cried for 1 1/2 hours so far do i just carry on??

[mattysmum09]

Never thought i would be able to do the cry it out method with my daughter as she is so stuck on our usual feed to sleep co sleeping method but realising something needs to change have moved her cot right next to bed and been putting her in it last few nights when she's gone off, stil comes in bed with me later on though. tonight had fed her and stil wide awake decided start trying to get her used to self settling from around 9pm. I've been in bed next to her but she is stil crying i dont want to give up and throw away the past nearly 2 hours worth of crying but is this ok will she give up soon do you think??

If you are comforting her and still in the room then I think it's fine.

I feel your pain. I did this exact thing two nights ago. Gave in and fed her in the end, just because I was losing my mind. I really hope you succeed. I'm sending positive vibes your way.

Only change one thing at a time.
Don't go straight from co-sleeping and feeding to sleep to doing neither, that is jumping right in the deep end.
No, it isn't ok that she is crying for two hours even if you are still in the room. I don't think you are teaching her anything personally by doing that.

Choose which you want to stop first perhaps and focus on that. So get her sleeping in cot, but still feed her. Once she is staying longer in the cot, work on cutting out the night feeding. In my opinion, which is not based on a heck of a lot so far, self-settling just means crying. If it's a few minutes protesting which results in settling, fine. Two hours is not settling though is it? At some point it makes more sense all round to accept it isn't working just yet and do something else and perhaps try another day.

In my limited experience I found that if it was difficult, then he wasn't ready - I tried this a few times - each time to tears and flopping around until I decided I needed my sleep more and gave in and fed to sleep - then at about 20 months he suddenly got the feed, wait, then go to sleep thing, then now, at 22 months he's suddenly got the feed, wait, go to sleep, and stay in his own bed all night thing (he just started sleeping through 2 weeks ago ).

I think that in my case at least, I can't force him to do anything, but once he's ready, it's easy. I'm going to give it another couple of months, then move the bed across the room (in preparation to moving into his own room)

How old is she? Self settling is sometimes something they can grow into with age.

Have you read the parenting science blog? It has useful info in babies and sleep (and "self-settling, which is not crying to sleep.)

I'm going through similar but DS is going through a major developmental leap at the.moment.

www.parentingscience.com/baby-sleep-tips.html