That DS doesn't have a sleep problem, it is everyone elses attitude to sleep that is the problem. He is 8m and sleeps in his own room for first part of the night and will wake a couple of times for milk but often by 3/4am if he wakes he will not settle unless I bring him into our bed wher he feeds then rolls onto side and sleeps soundly.
I am fed up of people telling me that I am making a rod for my own back and to stop giving him any milk or attention at night.
I do pick up/put down during the night but realised that after us both being in tears after a 2 hour battle at 3am neither of us was winning anything.
As soon as he came to bed he slept well.
DH doesn't mind and I quite like DS there so why am I putting myself through these battles most nights?
He sleeps in cot for naps in day and settles there ok for first half of night so why shouldn't I bring him to our bed for second half?
It has not been many years since families would have all shared a bed in this country and in many cultures still do so why do people tell me I am wrong for doing this?
Had chat with DH about it today and agreed it works for us so that is what we will do and I will stop getting stressed that 'my baby has sleep problems'
Is like a weight off my shoulders to stop trying to conform.