My baby has transformed into a wailing nocturnal banshee

[Lilyofthevalley]

What is it about reaching 9 months old? I've looked up old threads in sleep topic starting with "9 months" and they all echo my situation of having a dream sleeper who's just become impossible at night time.
She's eating well, playing well, napping okay and goes down at 7pm like a dream but wakes so often it's not even worth me trying to sleep in my own bed, I'm up and down so much.

Someone please tell me this will pass or that she'll sleep better once she's crawling or something!!!

Same thing here! Although never a dream sleeper she was never a crier and didn't mind the cot. Now wails the moment we leave the room! Think maybe separation anxiety?

Here's hoping ts passes quickly!

Sorry no advice but a lot of sympathy!!

this is about the age they get wised up to things and start to realise when you are there/not there, that they like being held etc...my dd2 is 9 months and she now often cries if I leave a room or when she is tired she will wail if I am not carrying her ( my poor back!).

My advicew would be if there is nothing actuallly wriong then some tough love ....have you considered controlled crying? we did it with dd1 at about 8/9 months and it was awful for about 3 - 4 days but it did work. You have to be prepared though!

make dd feel comforted then pop her back in her cot.. keep going.. she'll give in. don't let her in your bed. my sister did this and has only just got her dd to stop waking her 4/5 times a night... she is 4

I sat in the room with dd last night for 2 hours until she fell asleep. Was ok as I has comfy chair, blanket and book. I ignored her except to shhh when she cried, but mostly she crawled round talking to herself. Finally laid her down and she fell asleep nearly right away. CC may have been quicker but this was alot less painful. May never work again though!

I think they are learning so much at this age it must be hard for them to switch off, no matter how tired.

Snap.Our 9 month old dd2 who is usually a good sleeper has become a nightmare to put to bed.She is ok with daytime naps,just cries for 5 mins,but last night at bedtime,she screamed for 2 hours.Tonight it was 1.5 hours.

Seperation anxiety gets my vote.She is happy as larry until you close the bedroom door,then all hell breaks lose.

I seem to remember dd1 doing the same thing at 9 months & we used CC.I think we'll have to do the same thing as she's upsetting dd1 with her night time shenanigans.

I know I shouldnt let her in my bad but last night we were so tired and with some other personal problems and dh's crazy workload it was the only option for our sanity! and we slept ok. I feel better today and ready to start cc at the weekend when we can at least share dd's care and I wont be doing it all on my own. Dh is soooo busy at work it's not fair to expect him to be up all night with dd and then function as normal, he's got a pretty high pressure job and he needs to be on the ball!

Thanks for the support tho everyone! It's nice to know I'm not alone right now. Please keep in touch and let me know how you are getting on!

Well thats 2 nights in a row she's stayed in her own bed, and crying was minimal! She did wake to feed evry 3 hours but settled pretty quick after.

Good luck to you all for tonight!

Things are looking up all round then!
I was tough with dd2 tonight,put her down in her cot & kissed her goodnight & left the room.No feeding her,going back in ect.She cried for about 5 minutes & then stopped.That was 3 hours ago & we've not heard a peep.

I only hope that we don't pay for it later tonight.

Both my sons when through what you describe. DS2 is now 13 months and his sleep has settled again. That is sleeps from 8pm until 6-7am Sorry if that sounds a long way away but we did prolong the problem going away on holiday long haul.

We did CC and DS2 was a harder nut to crack than DS1. It took him a week to accept he had to sleep alone in his bedroom & crying wasn't going to get him any attention. We compromised in the end I'd get up at 5.30am (ouch) if he didn't cry until then.

I know this sounds harsh but by sorting out his sleep I felt more able to shower him with love and affection during the day rather than resent him for keeping me up all night. I'm sure they pick up on your feelings.

BTW My DH wore earplugs during the CC period.

Good luck

Had a good night last night myself! DD woke at 9:30 and dh sorted her out, then nothing til 4:30am! Got a good few hours in a row so feel like a new woman today!
My friend is having dd for a few hours this afternoon so I can have a bath and a bit of a pamper session as it's been a hard time lately!!!

Glad to hear some good news from Mirage and bobblehead too! Maybe it's something in the water or moon cyles or something that makes them play up at the same time?!

Well I spoke too soon. Not a good one last night. Awake from 12.30-3am and then ended up feeding AND cosleeping! Couldn't keep letting her cry as dh was up ar 4.30am and he was being kept up by it. However I think we will go for it over the weekend as he says he will help out too.
At least now I feel confidant that it isn't actually hunger as she only looked for a feed at the end (I was hungry by then too so don't blame her!) though I think that was as by then she wanted to sleep too, she just doesn't know how

my dd slept through the night from 5 months until 7 /8 months then changed her mind, at first we were able to get her back down each time she cried and took her into bed with us at 3 or 4 but the situation got worse and worse until she wouldn't go into the cot at all and even when i brought her to bed with me she wouldn't go to sleep.

was so stressed during the day from lack of sleep that i was snapping at her for everything and she had huge black circles under her eyes as she wasn't getting enough sleep.

had to do the cc at 11 months for everyones sanity. tried the ferber method first night (going in to reassure at successively longer intervals) but this was a disaster and second night had to just leave her.

first night took 45 mins and two wakings during night, second night took 20 mins with one waking and third night fell right asleep. she's still allowed into our bed for cuddle no earlier than 6am but quite often chooses to stay in her cot til 9 before calling me.

it was horrible but necessary for her sake as much as ours. would definitely say to other parents not to try it until you've tried everything else as if you try and give up because it's too hard it makes everything much worse.

Yes, just made a very unsuccessfulattempt at it for a nap which has no doubt made things worse. I am in tears over it, mainly due to lack of sleep I suspect! In the end I put her in her car seat and within 10 mins she fell asleep while I sat next to her. Not ideal but at least I wasn't rocking or fedding her. Thinking of getting the baby whisperer book this afternoon as it seems a little better for a wimp like me!

I've heard great things about her methods bobblehead, I downloaded some stuff on pick-up/put-down which is her method and I tried it but it really pissed dd off! Each time I put her down it made her worse and it's hell on the back!

Good luck tho, heres to a good night for us all tonight, I feel a million bucks now after a few hours to myself and a big steamy bubble bath.
DD is due back any minute now so I#d better get gone!

I'll be thinking of you all at 4am(!)