11 month old not sleeping in crib!

[stella1w]

OK, this is DC2 and I promised myself it would be different this time, but I am having the same problems as DC1 ie. he won't settle in his cot... I have tried CIO (which I am philosophically against) but he just screamed and screamed. He only wants to fall asleep with me in my bed which means that a) I don't get to get stuff done in the evening and b) I can'tleave the bed in case he falls out.
I have tried pick up put down, but he just screams the minute I even start to put him down. I am now sitting by his crib in the hopes of trying gradual withdrawal per the HV suggestion.. (this worked once a long time ago!). Any suggestions very gratefully received

I am in the same situation. DS is nearly one and has never settled in a crib, just wants to be in our bed. Preferably touching me. I can't do CC, way too soft for that. So instead, I have ditched the cot and put a king sized mattress on the floor. I feed DS off to sleep on it, then sneak away for whatever sort of evening he will let me have. Sometimes he wakes loads, sometimes he doesn't. Then when I go to bed, I play musical beds between mine and his. I am hoping that I'll gradually have to spend less time on his mattress, although at the moment I am there for the majority of the night.

The key thing is, he can't fall out/off when he wakes up looking for me so I can relax when I am downstairs.

Probably not the sort of solution you were hoping for but it works for us. Sort of!

My 9mo DS (also my DC2) is the same, as was his sister.

TBH I am trying to grit my teeth and plough on, as we did with his big sister, because making changes (withdrawing, CIO) requires energy and I have none at the moment.

I plan to wait for a long weekend when DH is around and we can tackle it together, and catch up on sleep the next day if needed. This is how we dealt with DC1 and it took 2 nights to get her sorted, that's all.

We were unwell over last weekend so missed our window then.

In the meantime, I will continue to cuddle him on the sofa every fecking evening the cuddles are nice though.

P.S. get some bed guards to stop him rolling out.

Same problem with my ds now 16 . Tried getting in to cot with him not very comfortable and don't recommended it put him in his own bed about 11 months
(Before that slept in my bed)
Next to wall well tucked in layed with him till a sleep then went to own bed did this for about 9rys. Now I look back and loved every moment laying next to him falling a sleep with a smile on his face,they grow out of it as the years go by you wondered why you worried

Watching with interest. DD is 6mo and screams if you so much as lie her in the cot.

Fannychanel that's a lovely post. Just read it to my DH and we both agreed we'll probably miss these co-sleeping, cuddly days when they're over. And I'd much rather remember my baby going to sleep with me happily than screaming in a cot that he hates.

I have the same thing with 11mo DD, I cannot get her to sleep in her cot. I've tried getting her to settle in cot, pick-up-put-down, rocking to sleep then into cot, settling in our bed then moving her to cot, but she always wakes and complains :(

We have a bedrail so I can leave her in the evening once she's asleep, but I do still worry a bit that she'll escape! Love the mattress on the floor idea, but DH won't go for it.

I've mostly decided to stop worrying and enjoy the cuddles!

I've just written 'my 7 month old wakes constantly' post. Reading this with interest as it's the same but with bigger babies! I must admit mine doesn't scream but she doesn't sleep either and she does cry til you pick her up. I know it will seem a short time when I look back on it one day, but sleep deprivation is quite hard when you're going through it! And not all babies sleep well when co sleeping. We're both very unsettled in together. She's unsettled everywhere!