At wit's end - need baby out of arms and into crib, somehow!

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I think this is a common issue on these boards, just really hoping someone has some advice for my situation - one week in to my baby's life and I'm dreading another nighttime. Apart from night#1 when he was still out of it, each night DS2 has fed constantly (which I can cope with) and then fallen asleep in my arms. I place him in his bed (a bednest, right up against my bed and with the side down so I can touch him) and he wakes up. Instantly. And cries.

The problem for me is that I end up letting him sleep, and then dozing off myself. I am not confident about co-sleeping, am in a small size double bed with a duvet and (worst of all) a DH who is a smoker. I have a lot of anxieties about my LO due to the hard time I had getting him, and convince myself at night that I'm going to be responsible for killing him... I need to convince him to sleep in his crib (or even his pram) somehow before that happens. He fell off my chest last night and against his crib, it could have been a lot worse.

Thank you for reading this epic, and any advice gratefully received!

Uuuuurrrgh! I had this with my DS and I promise it DOES get better. He's now 7 months and sleeps in his own cot in his own room so there is hope!! One thing that really helped us was to lay an item of my clothing that I had been wearing that day (normally a t-shirt) on the bottom of his Moses basket. I then lay him on top and he could still smell me (nice?!?!) and so felt more secure. seemed to work for us. Might be worth giving it a go? Good luck.

I read this for tips for my newborn, but one thing which has helped us a little is to keep him cuddled (asleep) for around 20 mins on me, with his sleeping bag wrapped over him. Then when its time to slide him into it, its warm and already smells of both of us. Doesn't always work, but has a higher success rate than anything else.