How to night wean?

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I think that I want to night wean DS2. He is 13 months. He still wakes between 1 and 3 times a night for milk, and for the day at around 6am. I'm knackered - as I'm BF him every bloody time he wakes I have dealt with every single night waking for the last year and a bit, and I'd just like some sleep now.

For a few weeks at around 9-10 months he slept right through the night - 7 until 6 - so I know that he can do it. I think that the feeding is just habit - it got worse during a teething spell, but he's not teething now and still waking lots. He sleeps in a cot in his own room, and self settles (at bedtime, for naps, and after night feeds - he doesn't feed to sleep): he has been put down awake since birth (happily, he has never had a problem getting to sleep), so I am sure that it is the milk which he is waking for, rather than just not being able to get back to sleep.

So how do I go about night weaning? When he woke at midnight last night I tried not feeding him (gave him cuddles instead, but kept putting him back in his cot) but he was asbolutely distraught and I gave in after about 20 minutes. I'm hoping to find a kinder way to deal with this (doesn't need to be a quick fix). CC not an option.

Hi - would he take a bottle of expressed milk?

No, doesn't take a bottle (only tried in a half hearted way; seems too late now). Also takes a lot of persuading to drink cow's milk from a cup (although fine with water and a sippy cup).

I thought I was great when my first self weaned, then my second came along and she was like yours failed miserably to do anything about this at all, until she was 2.3 and I just told her there would be no more milk at night. Obviously someone who managed it will be along in a minute, I hope you do a much better job than me.

A friend of mine just cuddled all night (depite the crying)

Others send their Dps in with water and cuddles

You could try the dc Jay gordon technique if you are not too tired.

I stopped breastfeeding in the day and 6 weeks later I dried up at night and there was no crying at all.

But that won't be happening with my current baby as she is not comforted in the day by a bottle so it will all take longer.

I will look at the answers!

I thought I was great when my first self weaned, then my second came along and she was like yours failed miserably to do anything about this at all, until she was 2.3 and I just told her there would be no more milk at night. Obviously someone who managed it will be along in a minute, I hope you do a much better job than me.

Darn sorry.

We used no cry sleddp solution for some things. In the end though we sort of did crying but with daddy there. He went in each time to comfort and when she cried he cuddled and settled and stayed with her. I think it took that to break the cycle and quite a bit of crying but the difference for us was that she wasn't left on her own and so it was angry cry rather than desperate left on own crying.

Don't know if that helps. Worried this timetap husband is away so much.