Intro a dummy at 9 months? Wwyd?

[Tertius]

Have a breastfeeding 9 month old who I try to not quite feed to sleep but who doesn't self soothe, basically u feed her or rock her and I just can't bear the crying at all. So tired after 9 months of it and have a 3 year old so v little rest.

I know I could do cc and night weaning but I also know she will get ill and I will slide back into old habits of comforting her to sleep. Experience tells me this! Then I will have to sleep train again....

She will take a dummy and has s soft rabbit and I just wonder if I should let her have the dummy for sleep? I have not been down this route as I did this with my son and really regretted it - he started to wake all night for it so I took it away. However, it didn't solve his sleep. And I find myself in the same position with her.

Would I be v unwise to give her a dummy now? Or could it help her need m's to comfort less? Surely she could find it in the night at this age?

Wwyd????

I think some babies need to suck a lot. I have one! I am contemplating bottles and dummies because although they might not get her to sleep better, I could at least catch up on sleep while dh sorted her occasionally. So I guess that might be a reason for you to do it.

Btw my dd is 10 months.

Yes absolutely - other people could put the dummy back in in the evening and for naps etc... I now see the advantages I had before.

I expect at night she would reject it but I am considering it for bedtime and naps. Though I am pretty scarred of the prospect of her waking at the end of every sleep cycle and needing it and then having to wean her off something I have taught her to love at this late age.

I think it all depends how you're feeling. I desperately need to feel that I can be "off duty" for a bit because even when dh takes dd2 down for a bit, I know she'll be back as soon as she's tired. The flip side is I don't want to lose the closeness. Having the bottles and formula and dummies around makes me feel a bit reassured.

At 9 months she might be old enough to find a dummy in the cot by herself? DS (18 months) sleeps surrounded by about 6 of them so when he wakes up he can reach one and pop it in. Not a long term solution, obviously, as we will need to wean him off it at some point but I am ignoring that little problem for the time being.