My dd, now. 8months has always been a difficult sleeper, but we've settled into a pattern now and she mostly has naps and gets to sleep at a reasonable time in the evening IF and only if I put her to bed. She used to go to sleep for DH when she was 5-6 months, though it was always more traumatic than if I did it. But since then she has become hysterical if DH so much as carries her upstairs after her bedtime story. The routine is the same, in fact he does bath, dresses her and gives her the bottle.
We've tried him being in the room when I put her to bed, she gets more worked up but does sleep eventually. But if I'm in sight then she will not go to him, even for a cuddle. This isn't a problem in the day, and when we finally got her sleeping through a couple of weeks ago it was because DH went in at night and she would (eventually) settle herself down.
I would be of the "wait it out" camp as I know we're hitting prime separation anxiety territory, but I've started an evening class once a week and DH has to put her to bed then. Neither of us is relishing hours of screaming each week.
Any suggestions for what might help her/him? I wondered if I wore one of his t shirts in the day so that he could wear it and smell of me, but that might just confuse dd further.
Thanks