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Too tired to make a change

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haloflo · 25/04/2012 08:33

DD1 (PFB) nearly 13 mo old. Slept through (11-5) about 3 times. 8 hours sleep is a distant memory. I've read the threads, even the long ones become obsessed with naps, even posted for advice. I make plans and fall at the first hurdle. I'm just too tired Just when I think we are getting somewhere it all goes wrong again

She has a molar coming and I'm more tired than ever. However I know as soon as she starts sleeping a bit better I'll just grab every minute of sleep i can putting up with the night feeds, wriggling co sleeping baby and random poking in the eye in the middle of the night rather than sacrifice a few hours of sleep needed to make a change.

I have a job and a life and you promised me this would pass?!

Anyone else like this? Too tired to carry on but too tired to make a change?

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Tertius · 25/04/2012 08:52

Me!

Second baby and can't do anything about it!

Every time I start something to improve things, real life gets in the way..... Naps go wrong, Evening emergencies etc....

I am giving myself til 12 months. Afraid stopping b feeding will help a lot!

Bartiimaeus · 25/04/2012 08:52

Oh yes I feel your pain. But I'm only at 7 months of sleepless nights

DS is so tricky. We get better nights (only 1 waking!) then something happens like friends coming over for the afternoon and he gets unsettled and goes back to waking every 2 hours (or every hour last night - did I mention I'm tired?)

I've been back at work 5 weeks and unfortunately for me DS got used to me doing the nights when I was on maternity leave so now won't settle for DH. We're thinking of going cold-turkey at the weekend and DH getting up each time so DS learns that he won't get breastfed...but I know it'll mean sleepless nights for all 3 of us!

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haloflo · 25/04/2012 09:07

tertius How old is your youngest DC? Did your first DC sleep well?

bartiimaeus I say that every weekend. And we give in at like half 10 - its the weekend, not the place of feeling like a sub human being. We want to go out together, have fun. Ooh 1 waking - do you mean between 11 and 6 or from 7-7. My DD's sleep was particularly crap at 7mo - I put it down to weaning then. There is always something!

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Tertius · 25/04/2012 09:21

Second dc is nearly 9 months.

First dc was frequent night waked breast feeder but only redeeming thing was I managed to teach him to settle himself from 7 months and while this made no difference to his nights, it did mean that when I stopped feeding at night - at nearly one - tht was it - he didn't need me to get up anymore.

Dd likes me to pat or cuddle etc.

I have tried numerous times to teach her to self settle but because of having an older child, I just can't remain consistent for various reasons.

Here's hoping it improves some how...... For everyone

Tertius · 25/04/2012 09:23

You CAN make a change! (telling myself a well here)

Bartiimaeus · 25/04/2012 10:12

I count the 1 waking between 11 and 6 and it's rare. DS goes down at 8.30pm (trial and error has found it's his best time. Any earlier and he just catnaps). Wakes up for the day around 7ish. A "good" night is 2 wakings, with a 6 hour gap in the middle so I feel fairly human!

There is always something isn't there? He started banging his head against the bars and crying so we got cot bumpers, then he had leaking nappies (even leaking through sleeping bag) so we got night nappies, then he was teething, then we went away for the weekend so he was unsettled, then, then then,...!

Doesn't help that he has reflux so I don't like leaving him to cry too long in case he needs to burp/be sick Sad

Bet01 · 25/04/2012 11:30

Halo I think I remember speaking to you a few months ago on here. We're the same. DS is 14 months old today. It hasn't passed. It's as bad as ever really! But like you we haven't done much about it, just tried to get as much sleep as we can (ie not much).
I just know DS isn't the type to sleep train easily anyway. DP tried to rock him to sleep when he woke up for milk the other night (this is the first and last time we tried night weaning) and he screamed for 1.5 hours til I fed him. And that was WHILE he was being rocked, and he'd fed 2 hours earlier so couldn't have really been hungry. So we've given up, basically.

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haloflo · 25/04/2012 13:46

Bet01 I do remember and so sorry things are just as bad. DD can self settle (does for naps, rarely at bedtime but often at night we hear a squeak then back to sleep) but if she wants milk she won't even try. She will go back to sleep for DP usually within a half hour but it doesn't seem to change her habits (she is different every night) It seems though sometimes the milk gives her energy and then she won't go back to sleep easily. That is the hardest part for me.

Bartiimaeous We have (had?!) nights with 1 wake up too but yes they are few and far between. That must be hard knowing he has reflux. Sad Hopefully weaning will help him?

Maybe they will all sleep through tonight

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nectarina · 25/04/2012 14:51

if you haven't already seen it. i was hoping 'it would pass' until MIL told me gleefully not to worry that DH slept through when he was 5 years old, so I should just wait it out. ha!
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sleep/1394888-What-worked-for-us-Hope-this-helps

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