15 week old - very unsettled at night, waking almost every hour, will only sleep soundly in our bed.

[zambooloo]

Any advice on how to alter these patterns would be great. She goes down at about 7 and sleeps fine for about the first 3hours. We change her nappy and feed at about 10, then after that she has started waking almost every hour. She isn't hungry and I can shush her back to sleep quite quickly each time. I usually feed her at about 2 or 3 and don't change her. Then she sleeps so badly that I usually give in as I'm so tired and let her sleep in our bed. She then sleeps fine but is then wide awake at about 5.30 - I can't get her back to sleep after this!

She usually naps for about 1 - 1.5hrs from about 8. She then naps again at about 1.30 or 2 for another hour and a last nap at about 4ish for about 1.5hrs. These times are very rough and often change. She will only nap in pram, car, bouncy chair or on me - the cot is a big no no!! She wakes after about 1/2hr and I can't get her to re-settle.

Sorry this is long - any help or advice would be great... I'M TIRED!!!

Search under 4 month regression . There is loads on this - every kid different but I do remember there being no reason with what happened to dd1 that we had a haywire few weeks but she was fine after

I know they say 19 weeks but I found this book helpful (the weeks are a bit of an estimate as dd started at about this stahez

wonder weeks

Watching this thread . Sounds exactly the same as my 18 week old , even down to the maps but she has been doing this since she was born . I'm so tired and irritable .

Offers or to Zamboo and arctic and blanks out dd2 turns 16 weeks in a month.

Fwiw dd1 was same on naps and got better (ie longer naps in a cot) once weaned and properly crawling as needed a deeper rest. I have no advice apart from it is a well known development phase on the horror nights. It did end (and there was no discernible change or relationship to trying to change feeds, daytime naps etc).

Try to push everything back a bit. Aim for the last feed to be at about 11pm then the next at 3 rather than 2 and I know it's a bore but change her then too. Then DON'T give in! You might have a week or two of hell but you will crack it by then. The 5:30am thing you might have to live with. My 11yr old still wakes at 5:30am. Always has! but if you are getting some sleep you will be able to cope better. I usually brought them in with me at that point and snoozed a little longer!

Try cutting out the morning nap now and putting her down about midday for an hour or so. She should then be fine until about 4...but then just a short one...about half an hour. She should then be OK until around 7pm again.
You can cope with anything if you get your sleep so good luck with it. I may sound a bit old fash (routine worked for me) but with this as with everything, no one way is right and you just have to find a way that works for you. All the best.

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I think the late afternoon nap is too long to be honest.. Could you cut that to say 1/2 hour and then bedtime around half six 7?
It may be that just not tired enough for bedtime?