Seeking support for pupd nap training.

[Jnice]

My DS will be 6m on the 22nd. He has reflux and pretty much every sleep problem. Naps are less than 30 mins, he wakes 4 or 5 times a night and he wakes for the day before 5am sometimes. I always lay him down asleep as we had to hold him upright after feeds.

I'm no longer feeding him to sleep routinely. But have to rock and pat.

I think if I can get him to self soothe the night waking might fix itself. I thought I would start in pupd for naps today.

Anyone have any advice or in a similar situation? Or just want to hold my hand!?

Bump - 2 naps down. 30 mins of crying the first time and 60 the second

So horrible.

Some virtual hand holding- good luck. It will get better. How was bedtime?

Hi such - I'm 8 hrs behind you in Vancouver so we are just passed second nap. After cryin for 1 hr he slept for 25 mins! I fed him and he went back to sleep on me for an hour. Start again later I suppose

And thank you

Pupd worked for me, although DS was about 11 months when I began. My tips would be put down as soon as he stops crying and if he starts crying on the way down, put him down, wait a beat and then pick up.
Try to minimise rocking and soothing if you can. You have to be utterly consistent and not give in and feed or rock to sleep after 40 mins or whatever. Once I changed my mindset from "will he sleep this afternoon" to "he is going to sleep this afternoon no matter how long it takes me to help him", it became a lot easier to stand in that room for an hour!
For the record I fed to sleep lying down on my bed for every nap and nighttime. It stopped working at about 10 months, and my version of pupd worked for us.
My phone battery is dying now but I'll be back if you need me :)

Ooh. Vancouver on my list of places to visit (once I can bear the thought of dealing with time zone changes and babies..). Agree with Obviously - consistency is key. The length of time for second nap may well reflect that he is beginning to recognise that things are changing and protesting that. Good luck!

obliviously - thanks for the success story . I havent caved during pupd but today only managed to do it twice. 3rd sleep was straight after short second nap when he fell asleep on me feeding. I wanted him to be rested so let him. Then out picking up other 2 DS he fell asleep in the buggy. It's not possible to be home for all his naps unfortunately. Also, I'm not ready to do this at night time. Is it ok to have this half strict approach sibling as during pupd you don't give in?

such - jet lag is horrendous with a baby but by the time they are 3 or 4 a lot easier. You can get them out and active during the day which helps. You should make the trip, it's a great place!

Oops - sibling = so long!

Ok, so bedtime has gone pear shaped. I usually put him down asleep after feeding and was planning to carry on like that for now. He woke up after 20 minutes so kind of forced me to start pupd now too. I really wasn't ready for this

I've left DH carrying on, it's been 90 mins now. I'm so stressed and desperate to not give in but he's nearing the point where he's usually having another feed. What happens if he doesn't sleep? I will have to feed him.

Hoping someone arrives soon with some ideas.

It was getting towards 3 hrs since last feed so I brought him out of the bedroom to calm down and then fed him. I really don't want to wake him before putting him down. Anyway, here we are. I'm at my wits end on day 1 and have no clue what I'm doing. The book doesn't give me a clue what to do when it goes on this long.

It doesn't sound like he is able to cope with this right now, can you leave him a few weeks then try again?

What's wrong with continuing to feed him to sleep? It's the most natural thing in the world for babies.

Hi jnice thought this might be you, sorry you had such a horrible night, hope today is a bit better and for you

Hey strawberry - thank you :)

llama - I don't have a problem feeding him to sleep at night and he's not in the habit during the day. I have been rocking him to sleep for naps but it's stopping working now that he's older.