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very good sleeper now not so good - VERY ANXOUS MUMMMY!!

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vivie · 27/11/2003 06:11

Please help! DS is 12 months and apart from a hellish start has always been a really good sleeper, following GF routines and sleeping 7-7 since 5 months. The last couple of weeks he has been waking often in the night, usually in the wee hours and crying very briefly. He settles down again in less time than it takes to read this sentence. He wakes then about every 30 mins, always settling quickly on his own. The last 2 night he has also been very unsettled in the early part of the night and I've given him some Medised. He's had a bit of a cold, and I suspect than he's teething as his mouth seems sore when he eats, and I noticed blood on his toothbrush (which HV assures me is normal - is it?!), but he seems more or less okay in himself. Not much appetite but pretty cheerful. I know he's not hungry in the night, because he's not that bothered about breakfast, and he's not got a dirty nappy.

The problem is that I can't sleep! When he cries out, I'm instantly wide awake and on full combat alert, pumping heart, churning stomach, chills, etc. I can't make myself think than he'll go back to sleep in a minute, and relax myself, and if I do the minute I feel myself dropping off again he cries out again. I have been awake since 3.45, and have no hope of going back to sleep now and I'm feeling pretty desperate. I've come downstairs to sleep on the sofa with the monitor switched off and dh who sleeps unless ds is really upset in charge, but still wide awake. I am a really anxious person anyway (clinically at times), and this is making me feel awful. I know logically that this will probably sort itself out soon, but emotionally I'm terrified that it won't and I'll never sleep again. Anxiety is a very irrational thing.

PLEASE tell me this is a phase!!!!! Why is he doing this?? I'm worried about ds because this is so out of character for him - he's never woken like this with teething before. At what point should I take him to the GP - at what point should I take me to the GP?!

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Lethal · 27/11/2003 06:43

Vivie you poor thing, I remember going through this kind of thing with my ds too. He was always a great sleeper like your ds, but any difference in his sleep patterns or his waking times would really throw me. I had PND for at least six months after he was born, probably longer, but I was also obsessed with sleep like you - or lack of it.

Firstly I would say it is definitely a phase, babies & toddlers go through so many phases and I believe that what they do today, they will not necessarily do tomorrow. Please try not to get too wound up by all this, as the phases really do pass and obviously you will have some bad nights occasionally, but things will settle down and you just have to try and go with the flow. Sometimes if their sleep patterns get a bit out of kilter, you may need to do some kind of sleep training again but I think mostly it sorts itself out. If you feel yourself getting really deprived of sleep, maybe get your dh to relieve you for a couple of nights, or else ask your gp for some sleeping pills to help you out temporarily... I've had some brilliant ones in the past that are non-addictive, they don't knock you out completely or make you feel groggy the next day - they just help you to fall asleep and sleep more soundly. I found that even if ds cried during the night, I would still hear him but I'd be able to fall back to sleep again, which is great. It's amazing how much better you can function once you've gotten enough rest. Hope things improve for you soon, but all I can say is try not to get too wound up as I'm sure it's a phase and just try to seek out whatever help you need in the meantime.

vivie · 27/11/2003 18:53

Thanks for your support Lethal. My mum came over today and took ds out for a walk so I could rest. Still feeling very stressed, even though I know it's ridiculous to. I have an appointment with my gp tomorrow. What was the name of the sleeping pills you had?

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Lethal · 27/11/2003 23:20

They're called Stillnox here, I think they might be called 'Ambien' elsewhere. (The ingredient is zolpidem tartrate I think). I only ever take half a tablet, seems to be more than sufficient to help you sleep.

My ds is 3 now but is still a good sleeper, so all in all, I think your ds will remain a good sleeper if he has been in the past (others might disagree!), but that been my experience anyway. This is probably just a temporary thing for your ds so I'm sure he'll get back into his normal pattern eventually. Best of luck.

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