Getting my daughter to sleep

[mumy02]

Please please ca you help me, I have no clue what to do, I have 16 month daughter, pregnant 7.5 month, she only sleep when we take her in the car, and she only settle when we take out of the car and put her to bed, how can I get her to sleep in her cot after I give her her milk , if I leave her in her cot and she cries she will get sick and I have to clean the carpet, I am getting so stressed my husband stressed too , how we are going to cope with the second baby. please help me

How can I stop this what I mean is having not to take her in the car to sleep . please help. I am at the end of my tether.

Have you tried lying down with her in bed? DD1 (now 2.5 mo) never slept unless I was with her, but will happily nod off if I laid next to her. It was lovely having a lie down with DD2 as a bump. DD2 is now 5 mo and we all nap together during the day!

Thanks mamij the only way she sleeps when I sit in the chair in her nursery I put her on my chest and she drift of ,also I have to be so quite like walking on egg shell , I am so worried all the time in case she is sick, i can not bear to see her crying and upset, do you think I am normal of not wanting her to cry or upset????? what am I do when the next baby comes, do you think she will cope with the new baby.

I don't think any mother likes her baby to be upset, but do you mean you fear it too much? Could you have PND perhaps - maybe a chat with your GP would be in order.

Hi littlewaveylines I am really sorry what does PND means, I agree with you I fear it too much I believe that I do not want her upset , its just when she cries she makes her self sick which means that she lost all the food she has just eaten, I just want to be able to put her in her cot and she sleep haply. i also don't like her falling over just in case she hurt her self, do you think I am normal.

PND = postnatal depression.

If she's crying enough to make herself sick I'm not surprised you get upset! Yes it's normal to not want your baby to get hurt. Yes, it's normal to not want your baby to cry.

I actually don't think it's normal to be able to just dump a baby in a cot and walk away without it crying though. Babies are evolved to want to be with their mothers all the time, including when asleep. Some let that need be known more than others though! I think it is the rare baby, not most babies, who will just go to sleep on their own in a cot without some sort of "sleep training".

Could you put her cot mattress on the floor, lie with her until she goes to sleep, then creep away?

I am not a sleep expert however, my 9 month DD does not sleep well - but I have done lots of research on the matter as a result!

Thank you for that I will try , I think you are right I need to train her, thanks for that .

Actually I think sleep training is best done gently, if at all.

I think it's completely normal to feel upset when they cry! I hate seeing either of mine cry! I think it's not normal if you don't feel upset!

I tried to reinforce the bonding when DD2 was still a bump. DD1 loved kissing her little sister. When DD2 was born, DD2 gave a 'present' (sticker book) to DD1 saying how much DD2 loves her older sister. DD1 loves her now.

Does DH get home early enough to put your DD to sleep/ do bedtime routine? DH started putting DD1 to bed (brush teeth, story, bed) when I was 4 months pregnant. It was difficult at first as she would scream for me. Now she let's him unless she's over tired when she would cry for me. DH stays with her until she's asleep and then creeps out.

Obviously, I do the days. She's perfectly happy co-napping with me and DD2 in my bed as I cuddle them both