3 hour bedtimea

[trio38]

I posted a couple of weeks ago about 4 month old being fed to sleep and taking an hour and a half to settle. It now takes up to 3 hours and apparently only bfing will do.

DH ried settling her last night and she screamed hysterically for 25 minutes despite being cuddled until I took over and fed her. This evening she has settled twice then woken after 10 mins. I'm now 2 1/2 hours in and still feeding.

If I feed in the night she will go down awake and settle herself but doesn't at any other time (rocked in pram for naps).

Any attempt to calm her in the cot or pick up/put down quickly turns into screaming. I don't feel like I can carry on spending every evening doing this. I'm finding myself feeling very stressedand angry with her which I hate

Bloody bloody phone. Has anyone else had any success helping their dc learn to go to sleep when anything other than feeding results in screaming? Or can you suggest a way to shorten the feed til she's properly asleep? Thanks.

Am sort if in the same situation, although dd settles alright (mostly) for bedtime and usually wakes up once a night. I end up feeding her to get her back to sleep but she doesn't take a full feed and often wakes shortly afterwards. Feeling pretty grotty at the moment and wondering how to move forward with it all. Am watching with interest, hoping the Easter bunny might come along with some useful advice!

Do you think that she's having a growth spurt?

Is she having enough milk during the day- maybe she's becoming more aware of her surroundings and therefore not feeding much through the day, thus needing to make up for it in the evenings?

Wind? Have you tried massaging?

Teething- bfeeding helps with this...?

Is it cluster feeding? There is a growth spurt and a sleep regression at 4 months that can send everything awry... if you can bear it, live with it for a week or so, then re-assess...

Oh and we coped with this stage by just bringing her back downstairs after bathtime, and settling on the sofa feeding in the evening, with DP waiting on me hand and foot! (I actually grew to enjoy it )

So Littlewaveylines, did it stop by itself? This has been going on for nearly 3 weeks now and is getting worse. Also waking more in the night and almost impossible to get down for daytime naps so she ends up screaming for long patches through tirwdness, or as we try to settle her.

DH works evenings and I have 2 other Dcs. Ive considered bringing her down for the evening but still want to aim for a 'bedtime'. My feeling is that this is a getting to sleep issue, not a food one.

Hmmm well I feed my 9 month old to sleep and don't really have an issue with that. At 4 months ish it was cluster feeding and took hours, so I would just bring her back downstairs. After about 3-4 weeks feeding to sleep took minutes again.

(I then had the different problem that if I left her after feeding her to sleep, her special super baby powers would detect me creeping away, and she would wake up, and take hours to re-settle - so I was trapped upstairs all evening. This phase is just passing now....)

3 1/2 hours tonight (so far). Grrr.

And it definitely won't be happening when I start work in a couple of months as other people will have to settle her some evenings.

Trio, sympathies, same here. Have tried for a week in two occasions to settled DD (20 weeks) in evening and she won't have it, though is fine for naps. I think it is 4 month sleep regression and am going to wait a couple of weeks before trying again. She has gone from spending a lot of night in cot to co sleeping all night and waking up every hour or so. Am sure it will pass. I couldn't do the feeding all evening upstairs anymore so have also reverted to sofa. Much less stressful.