Sleep patterns for a 3-6 month-old

[nickelhasababy]

DD is 14 weeks old.
"The books" say she should be sleeping about 15 hours a day now.

when? What pattern?

From what I can work out, she gets:
morning in the pram on the way to work, until she wakes up hungry: 1 hour ish.
afternoon, lucky if she does an hour then, so :1 hour
evening when at home: 1-2 hours (1 hour at a time)
night-time, she comes to bed when we go to bed, at about 10:30, so she sleeps (ish) from then until 8 ish when we get up again for work.
Of course, she doesn't really sleep all of that, because she wakes every 2 hours for a feed (but does mainly dream feeding through the night)

She used to sleep most of the evening, if she was rocked first.
She is always awake by about half past 11 now.

Do I count this as normal?
she doesn't seem grouchy or miserable during the day, but does a low level growling for up to 20mins before she falls asleep (usually if she's rocked she goes off quicker). when she's awake, she's alert and active, and she doesn't normally fall asleep while feeding during the day. (well, probably one out of 3 feeds)

there's no way she gets 15 hours sleep, even if you add it all up.

thank you.

:)

DS2 is almost 14 weeks.

We usually get a 2 hour nap in the morning, a 2 hour nap in the afternoon, an hour (ish) in the evening. Bed by 8pm, and on average awake at 6am, with 2/3 night feeds.

I hadn't realised he was so close to "recommended". bloody wish he'd sleep through the night and stay in bed til 7 though!

Hit post too soon.

If she's not grouchy, is alert and active, then she's doing brilliantly. The growly bit sounds like self settling to me.

how do you put him to sleep in the evenings?

they're supposed to be in the same room, right? so no cot.
she won't sleep at all in the moses basket (main reason we haven't got a cot yet...), so she sleeps in her chair in the evenings. then comes to bed with us.

but she's normally unwilling to sleep at that time.

she's doing the growling.
i put her in the chair and am rocking her.
I put the blanket on her.

she's looking at the floor with a pissed-off look on her face.

now she's stopped growling and is looking around.

she really does look like an old man sometimes

Aaah, I bet she's a cute old man though!

He's now not in our room as he grew out of the co-sleeping cot I bought a couple of weeks ago. Our rooms are so close that he's the same distance from me in his own room as he'd be in the one bit of room we could fit his cot (that made sense in my head) - we just leave doors open and monitors on.

He started nodding off at around 8 on his own anyway, so once that became regular I made a "routine" from half 7 - listen to DS1's stories, bath, BF with lights off in grow bag and pyjamas, into bed semi awake. He has a dummy though and nods off as soon as it's in his mouth (a blessing and a pain in the bum as I'm sure one of the night feeds is more about the dummy). He goes through until midnight/1am before needing feeding again.

He will ONLY nap on me during the day though - no chance of getting him in the cot then.

i've just got a dead leg from trying to rock her to sleep - she managed lots of eyes closed-no-open-no-closed and now she's moaning again.
can't send her back off to sleep cos I close in 10 minutes!

ah, that's a good set-up (our room is too far away from her room and it's our laundry drying room at the moment )

DD definitely doesn't sleep that early (which is good for us anyway, because we can fit her into our schedule)
I wonder if she doesn't like being on her back, or if she doesn't like being away from us physically.

x-posts.

it's so cute when she sleeps on me

My LO is 13 weeks. Her rough sleep patterns are
6.30am - wake and feed, put back to bed
7am-8.30am - sleep
10.15am-11am - sleep
1.30pm-3pm - sleep
5-5.30 - sleep
bed at 7pm where she sleeps til morning
So roughly 15.5 hours, sometimes more, sometimes less.

We tried dropping the putting her back to bed at 7am for an hour or so, but she just didn't suit it. I'm not fussed by how long she sleeps, but I take notice of when she wakes and put her down, awake, in her cot an hour and a half after she last woke up. She then falls asleep. I know she sleeps lots if in the car or in the buggy, so if I am planning on popping to the shops, I generally do it over the time she has her long nap and she has it in her buggy.

At 14 weeks I'd really recommend you start putting baby to bed in a cot in her / your room around 7pm. I know that officially they say she should sleep with you until - what? six months? but I think getting used to going to bed properly early on really helps with sleep AND as lovely as they are, getting a bit of baby-free time in the evenings is pretty wonderful!

I started bedtime routine and putting DS to bed in his cot in our room at around 8 weeks then put him in his own room around 16 weeks. Always stuck to the rule that, other than at feeding time, we didn't get him out of his cot if he moaned and cried - just stroked head and shushed. After feeds it was straight back into cot with no fuss either. No rocking / cuddling to sleep! At nine months now, he is, and has been for a long time, the most amazing self-settler; goes into cot wide awake and giggling - sings and plays with his little cuddly toy for five or ten mins then drops off to sleep quite happily.

Hi

I have a 15 wk ds and day tend to go like this
7am up
9-930/945 nap
12-2 nap
1/2 hour nap between 4&5
Bed time between 630 and 7
Wake up at 10pm for feed, down by 1030-11

No night feeds at the moment which is amazing/lucky. Sometimes have to go in to put his teddies back next to him.

We put him in his own room two weeks ago for similar reasons to OP. in a flat so his room is literally 5 steps away, and he had outgrown Moses basket and cot was already set up in his room. We had been putting him to nap in his own room since about 6/7 weeks. Like OP we have doors open and a monitor.

well, we tried to see what would happen if we didn't pick her up when she grizzled, thinking it might follow the "average" sleeping pattern.

so, we came home from work at about 6, she fell asleep in the pram. i left her there. she woke up a couple of times but went back to sleep after minutes, grizzling herself to sleep.
she woke up hungry at half 7, fed her, went off to pcc meeting at 8, where she grizzled for about 10 mins then went to sleep.
she woke up again just as i got home at half 9.
i fed her and we got herready for bed, and off we went at half 10.
she then stayed awake, mithering for food, and feeding very madly (pulling and twisting etc) until about 3 in the morning!
she slept until dh got up got work at 5, then stayed awake until 6, trying to eat and not settling until 7ish.
then she slept until 8ish and then grizzled and fed (pulling and twisting again, but not letting go) until we got up 40 mins later.

and today, she's been feeding as if there's nothing there - twisting, pulling, etc.
but she won't "finish" the feed.

so, she slept in the evening and didn't sleep in the night.
pants.

at least it suits us at the moment for her to be awake in the evening.

Hmm.

DS is being a grouch and is very distractable with feeds at the moment (I feel like I will have 6ft of nipple soon) and I've put it down to a growth spurt ("angry" feeding) and the fact that he is so adamant that he MUST roll onto his front - which he can't do yet - just this last week he has had a real boost in both development and frustration with his limitations. Wonder if your DD is going through similar?

you know, she probably is.
she spends a lot of time on her back arching her shoulders to the side and groaning.