Sleep training

[Wrenner]

Hi all! My ds2 is 1(just turned) and used to be a good sleeper. After illness (lots) and teething he has forgotten this art and now wakes on a good night twice and always at the same times. I know I need to do sleep training but just stuck in a horrible cycle where I'm too tired to do it! Each time he wakes he has 7oz of milk or comes in my bed. I know this is a habit I've formed but also think if he's hungry?!

This isn't a habit you've formed, you're just meeting his needs. If he wasn't hungry, he wouldn't be drinking 7oz of milk! There is a growth spurt at 12m plus teething etc like you say. We're currently going through the same with 13m DS, he's having 2 6oz feeds during the night! This too shall pass...

Aw least I'm not alone! Do u offer water? Xx

Glad to hear some of you are doing similar things to us, dd is nearly 10m, teething, just toddling, rolling , generally exploring, suffering with exzcema and will only settle cuddled to us, having previously slept well. We are following her so we all get some sleep, if we leave her to cry she will cry for 2+ hours yet if we lie her in bed with us/ give her a little milk or water she will settle in about 10mins provided we hold her hand.

Dh is having to cope this week as i'm on my second day back in work, following maternity leave, and on night 2 away from 3, home hopefully before she goes to bed on friday. I'm missing them both like crazy.

We're in the same boat with DD who is the same age. We tried water and it worked well for a couple of nights and then on the third she screamed for two hours until I gave her milk, and I felt like a terrible mother/idiot as clearly she was hungry! She's quite small for her age, and seems to eat well but her day time calorie intake has no influence on her sleep at all.

Just wanted to say that feeding in the night can happen periodically after weaning if baby going through growth spurts etc, but if it goes on for a long period of time, I'd venture that it has become a habit (been through this myself).

Technically speaking, a fullly weaned toddler shouldn't need night feeds to get through the night on a regular basis. Of course, not all toddlers know that!

I believe it's a habit because he wakes at the same time and if he was hungry then it would bd random times surely?? Also no matter how much I stuff him before bed it makes no difference what so ever, also the same with naps! I need to sort it out because I am evil at 4am but too tired!!!

Yes I offer water and if he's just thirsty he will take it. I hear him wake a few times but he generally settles himself back off. If he's going mad I know he's hungry! I know DS will go back to sleeping well when he's over whatever this is. He's been poorly and I've gone back to work so maybe he just needs the extra comfort. I'm not going to stress trying to fix it or listen to him scream all night when a bottle is all he needs.

Obviously you know him best, but 7oz doesn't sound like habit.

Anyone get there dc in the bed with them?