How much daytime sleep at 1 year?

[haloflo]

Hiya

My 11.5mo DD has never been a great sleeper. Night wakings are her specialty. However currently she loves to nap in the day (except when she is looked after by her Nanna) and can sleep for 3 hours in the day if we are home (split over her 2 naps)

Her routine tends to be

7.00 up (both my partner and I work alternate days so this is when the alarm goes off)
9.30 - 11.00 nap
2.00/2.30 - 3.30/4.00 nap (if she goes down at 3 I usually wake her about 4/4.15)
7.30/8 bedtime.

Sunday she wanted bf's every 2 hours including the evening, Monday was the same. Last night she did 7.30-10.30 (bf) then slept til 2.30 When she was awake til 5 tossing and turning (we co sleep) Why why why?!?!

Is it the naps? Is she getting too much day sleep which is impacting her nighttimes and causing the night wakings? She has done 11-5 about 3 times in her whole life.

I'm happy to bf her a couple of times a night although would like to night wean her sometime after her 1st birthday. She also has a dummy.

Today we were out all morning so she is just having a pm nap. She fell asleep at 12.50 and I'm hoping for at least an hour and a half. She will then probably go to bed between 6.30-7.

She currently self settles for naps but usually I have to sit in the room with her for bedtime (i'm trying to get further away, I used to pat her) This is a vast improvement on things a few weeks ago when I had to pat her to sleep for all sleeps.

She sounds kinda normal to me

A lot of babies go through a developmental milestone at this stage, where they are slowly morphing into little walkers/runners and it can make their sleep go a bit funny.

If you are thinkiong of night weaning, try googling dr jay gordon for a gentle way to do it, if you fancy.

Fwiw, my first kid slept like a dream. Ds2 rarely sleeps for longer than 2 hours! Treated the same - go figure!

Normal!!?? LOL thank you. You mean babies don't sleep for 12 hours a night, in their own room, every night!?!

Would you just let her sleep when she is tired? Or mess with her naps? My mum thinks I'm mad when I wake her.

She was throwing herself down onto the pillow last night like she was trying to sleep. She is cruising at the moment and trying to stand unaided. I can't see her walking for a couple of months yet (only starting crawling 1 week before 10 months) but I guess you never know.

I am considering the Jay Gordon thing soon although I am irrational when tired and likely to give in for an easy life if she gets too cross. I'm tempted to just leave DD and DP in bed one night and see how they get on. She responses well to him and knows he doesn't have boobs.

If you feel she won't sleep at night if she sleeps to late in the day, then sure, you know her better than anyone, so wake her and see what happens?
They go through so many changes we can't see too - cognitive stuff and emotional stuff.

Lucky you that dh can settle her! SOunds like he could do a night or 2 and let you get some rest!

I'd say yes, she may be having too much day sleep now. 10/11 months is a typical age for sleep to go wonky & yes it can sometimes be developmental, but can also be due to their daytime sleep needs changing.

IIWM I would think about limiting one of her naps. I found its best to cut back the AM nap, and then put her down earlier for her PM nap. You could perhaps cut the AM nap to 1hr to start with, and see if she'll go down at around 1.30pm for her PM nap? Over time you will need to cut the AM nap shorter & shorter, maybe to around 30mins and the PM nap will gradually shift earlier AND lengthen, until the AM nap can be completely dropped & she can take 1 nap after lunch. This can take quite some time (weeks or possibly even months) so its quite a gradual process).

BTW my mum & MIL also think I am mad for waking DS & they hate to do it, but if I don't then we get EW & I know which I'd rather do/have!

Thanks omama Can they usually have phase of 2 naps usually and then sometimes 1? She has been asleep nearly 2 hours now this afternoon (I did have to resettle her half an hour ago.) I think we might start waking her in the am but then she seems grumpy late afternoon even if her afternoon nap is 1 hour and a half. Does the afternoon nap need to be more like 2 hours or even more?

nethunsreject He's never had her overnight, just in the evening. When i'm out though she does usually go back to sleep albeit with a few more tears?