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Getting rid of dummy!

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BelleStar · 11/03/2012 20:31

For the last few days my 6 month old dd's sleep has been getting more and more interrupted as a result of her losing her dummy, waking up, crying, etc. So tonight I've decided to stop using it. DH and I have now been trying to settle her for an hour and a half but she just won't stop crying. It's going to be a long night! Please hold my hand and give me some words of advice! TIA!

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forcedinsomnia · 11/03/2012 20:56

Sounds pretty rubbish....but I can't really help I'm afraid. My ds will not take a dummy....I've tried them all I think at some point. Will be glad one day I'm sure. Hope someone comes to help soon. Smile Good luck.

rusmum · 11/03/2012 22:32

My dd is almost 4 Blush and we cannot get the dummy off her!

Obsidian · 12/03/2012 08:20

We made exactly the same decision on Saturday morning. DD is nearly 6 months and was struggling to learn to self-settle because of the dummy issue. I don't regret using it as it was an absolute godsend between 2 and 6 months, but we felt that it was time to help her learn to sleep on her own. In fact, we have been following the advice in the 'What worked for us' thread.

Well, Saturday night was AWFUL. It took about two and a half hours for her to go to sleep, with quite a lot of screaming. Mostly angry rather than upset, but still dreadful to listen to. We patted, shushed, reassured, picked up, cuddled, fed, sang etc. Everything except the dummy, which was of course what she wanted. She eventually rolled on to her side and went to sleep at about 8.45 and we collapsed as well. Consequently, we were dreading last night.

However... we did everything the same as we normally do. Bath, feed, story, cuddle, bed, story, music etc. We made sure she was really calm when she went into her cot and then sat down and waited for the screaming. She rolled around for about 15 minutes, squeaking occasionally, and then went to sleep ON HER OWN, with no intervention!! Amazing.

This may be coincidence, luck or both, but I just wanted to reassure you that it is possible to take the dummy away at this age successfully! She has also slept much better the last two nights (after getting herself to sleep) and we've felt happier leaving her when she grumbles because we're not worried the dummy has fallen out, so (everything crossed!) it seems to be going well. Going to try and tackle naps today, but not too hopeful about getting her to go down in her cot. May cheat and use the pram/car!

Tonight may be different again, but so far following Nectarina's excellent advice and removing the dummy seems to be working for us!!

Hope that gives you a bit of reassurance and that she went to sleep eventually last night! Good luck, x

BelleStar · 12/03/2012 21:06

Thanks for the replies! I'm pleased to hear it can quickly be successful!

Last night did not go well! I spent nearly 2 hours with her (in and out) then asked dh to take over so that I could eat something. The crying stopped and I though, "he's done it!"; about 30 seconds later he appeared in the doorway holding her in his arms! Nooooo! "She wouldn't stop crying" he said. He'd been up there all of 2 minutes! I was not happy, but basically kept her downstairs while I ate and then took her back up to bed but frankly thought 'sod it' re dummy as it had been ruined anyway. And I was in a bit of a rage and I didn't feel mentally able to deal with her crying and being so unhappy. So I'm going to try again in a couple of days. I know that most people find it works pretty quickly, I just hate her being sad! How do I soothe her if I can't give her what she really wants? For those 2 hours last night I couldn't really do anything that helped her settle.

I'll let you know how I get on!

Xx

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loopy11 · 12/03/2012 21:08

If you can't face going cold turkey there is a gentle removal method descibed in the book - The No Cry Sleep Solution. It worked for us.

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