pick up put down questions

[BibBabBob]

I'm keen to try this technique to help my son sleep through the night (yawn) but there are a couple of things I'm not too sure on.

1. How long do you leave it between pu/pd if he cries the second I put him down again. Do I pick straight up?

2. What if he doesn't calm down when I pick him up. Do I put him down crying or wait until he calms down (which could be a long time in our experience- maybe this means this technique won't work for us.)

Help needed from any pu/pd experts.

pu/pd didnt work for us for the same reasons! maybe we were doing it wrong but dd would get so tired that she would fall asleep on my shoulder between the pu/pd bit and the put-down would wake her up!!

bumping cos someone else might be able to help you ...

sorry - no advice but bumping for you as I'm also keen to know. Also what age is it ok to try this from?

I think up to around 3 months pat/shush is recommended: pat/shush

Pick up/put down is for a baby over 3 months: pick upput down

The gist is that you pick them up quickly but put them down before they are completely calm (which I suppose prevents them relying on you too much to get back to sleep)

Hello, I'm in week two of doing this - so far has worked exactly as predicted by baby whisperer. 3 nights of pu/pd and he slept through for first time since 4 months old (now 9 mnth). Woke up last night also as predicted (apparently they go back wards in the 2nd week) - wandering how tonight goes!

I got a link to a fantastic article (27 pages of everything you'll ever need to know whatever the age of you baby) from another thread - will find in a minute. Would recommend reading this as you are bound to do something wrong if you don't. But to answer your questions imo:
1)Even if he starts crying on the way down keep going until he's lying down then pick up straight away. It seem to me that the lying completely down is the important bit. My ds sort of just gave in after about 40 minutes of me thinking it was never going to work, he rolled over and went straight to sleep (in the past has done 3 hours of controlled crying with no success)
2)Hold him until he stops crying but the minute he does/or at least stops screaming put him down. However, this q + a thing does mention a stage (I think she said about 6 months) where they fight you and push you away and then you're better not fighting to hold them but putting them down and staying close/ patting their back.

The best tip I got from the article was that it takes 20 minutes for them to fall asleep from being awake. If you leave the room before this and the come back slightly awake then you have to start from scratch - so stay until absolutely sure they are asleep.

Hope this helps - good luck. I think the baby whisperer is god!

If you go to this page there is a link to get access to the sleep interview that leggymamba is talking about:

Sleep Interview

Thanks - don't know how to do one of those clever linky things - used to blame it on lack of sleep, but can't do that any more!

thanks for that. Have just read the article and feel inspired. Will give it a whirl at the weekend. everything is crossed.