HELP (please)

[LyraBelaqua]

Currently I am sat in the living room of our bungalow whilst my 4mo ds is in our bedroom with my husband. DS is lying in bed screaming blue murder and I just dont know what to do! He has kept me up for 3 nights, seemingly only able to sleep for 2 hrs max when he previously had been sleeping right through and I'm just so confused. Im familiar with CC which we used with DD at 6 mo as she was terrible at bedtimes. But you are not supposed to use this on younger babies!! What am I supposed to do instead? He wont sleep unless its on us then we have to sneek him into bed and hope he doesnt wake. I really want to get out of this though as I swore blind things would be different this time round!!!! If I put him to bed what am I supposed to do if he wont stop crying? He gets so upset and sweats profusely and I know his babygrow will be soaked by sweat by now. How can I get him to learn to self sooth? please help I feel like my head is going to explode :(

:( u poor thing. U read nectarinas this worked fir us thread!! Had amazing results in a Matter of days. Used to have to rock to sleep xxxx

Lyra please don't panic. Its really common for baby's sleep to change around this age. Mine also slept through 12 hours most nights until she was 4 months old - then everything broke. Daytime naps, night time settling and she was waking to feed every two hours as well. For me this was the most difficult part of having a baby - harder than the newborn stage.

If you google 4 month sleep regression you can read about what might be happening for your baby. There is also a huuuge growth spurt around this time as well so he might be very hungry too.

My DD is 8 months old now, and I said to my partner only this morning - "If only I'd known that her sleeping would get better, I wouldn't have worried so much about her sleep when it all went wrong". She is a completely different baby and I wish I hadn't worried so much (easier said than done!)

Is there anything you can do to make it easier for you and your DH whilst your son's sleep settles down? Will he fall asleep on you for a while? DOn't be too hard on yourselves and your baby. Maybe just do what your baby wants for a few days so you get some sleep and then think about what you can do together to fix it?

I'm not a sleep expert or anything so just ignore my advice - but your post really struck a chord and I had to reply as I was remembering how difficult DD was at 4 months old just today.

Thank you soooo much for your advice. DS is currently asleep on DH so peace reigns for now. I think sleep makes me really nervous as its soooo important to me and I just picture those kids on Supernanny and the like and panic that it could be us in a few years!!! Also DD was such a nightmare and we did CC with her exactly as the books say and it took 6 MONTHS!! Our HV kept saying that we'd started so it would be a shame to stop and it would work...which it did eventually. Just hoping not to have a repeat of that. DS has just started crying again, such fun :(