15 weeks dummy issues

[Sequin1]

Hi
My DD is totally reliant on her dummy to get to
Sleep however she now wakes frequently in the night and in naps and cries until you go
And put it in.

For naps she settles straight away as soon as you put the dummy in but after 45 minutes always wakes up and cries for the dummy. Sjr stops crying the minute you put it in, some times I will have to replace it again a couple of times after 5 minutes as it drops out again

For night time she goes to bed with it @ 7 and is out like a like until her night feed at 1-2am, she has her bottle then dummy in and back to sleep,sometimes we have to replace a
Couple of times until she drops off. She will the stir around every 1.5hr crying until you put it in, this goes on until she gets up at 7.

How can I tackle this as the unbroken sleep
Is a nightmare and I also have a lively 4yr old
DS to contend with as well.

Any advice would be welcome, thanks

Ds2 had a dummy until he was 9months when the health visitor suggested it could be the cause of night waking. We took it off him completely and he didn't miss it after 24hrs. She also said he wouldn't be able to find it himself until he was about 12months. Not sure about that one though.

If she is waking because of her dummy I suggest doing away with it completely. She will miss it but not for long because of here young age.

HTH

Thanks for replying. Well we decided to go cold turkey now rather than leave it any longer and we are 24hrs in. First Nap was okish fell asleep after about 10 minutes crying, 2nd nap yesterday fell asleep then woke up could here her sucking fingers, dropped off then woke again and just got herself so worked up (I was going in every5 minutes) after 20 minutes I got her up. In the evening she fell asleep after about 10 minutes crying and was sound asleep until 1am, had a feed then back to sleep until 3.30 which is her usual stirring time and managed to get herself back off with sucking fingers. Next awake time was 5.45 and no matter what she could not get herself back off so again got so worked up I got her up.

I am struggling listen to her cry so much, is this normal that they have to go through this crying stage? I have given her comforter to hold as well hoping this might help.

I really feel for you - we are going through the same things with our 15 week old! I think he is starting to teeth too (my first daughter got a tooth at 4 months!).

With my second daughter we went cold turkey with it for the same reason, it took three days in all honesty and then things improved. There were a few naps when she was older that I used to give her a bottle of water to suck on instead, only if she was distraught.

I'm dreading it this time around.

Good luck both of you.

Sequin the crying is totally normal. She is just adjusting to the change and is expressing her displeasure. She has no other way of doing it.

Just to let you know, day 2 can be the worst day because they realise that this is permanent and really protest. Things should get better after that. Hang in there. :)

Aah thanks everyone for your offers of support. Probably yesterday was not the best timing to start as MIL was round for the afternoon when she had her worst crying session so far - she has probably reported me

Pippinella - have you just started to ditch the dummy or are you gearing up to it?

Will let you know how I get on

Agree totally normal and she will get used to self-settling. It's a good thing to do because dummy addiction just gets harder to break as they get older. My 2.5 year old still has one at night and until recently did during the day as well (miraculously we broke this habit while on holiday and she accepted it really well, which was a huge relief).

My daughter did manage to find hers at 9 months and from then on we've never had to get up to put it back in, so it's not been an issue from that perspective. But my concerns were how it would affect her teeth and speech so I think you're doing the right thing.

I'm going to keep it for now, I must admit I'm putting it off! A bit like getting him used to his cot during the day - he still sleeps in the moses basket downstairs with me, I have gotten so lazy!