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9 year old having trouble sleeping - any advice please?

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WannaBeWildCosMyLifesSoTame · 20/02/2012 13:30

My DD is having real trouble sleeping at the moment and I can't get to the bottom of why. She is OK once she finally gets off but has huge trouble most nights actually settling herself to sleep, more often than not she is still awake (or has only nodded off briefly) when I come up at 10-11ish.

I know she is nervous for some reason - she hates the door being shut and has to have a nightlight - but she's not able to tell me why she feels like this. I leave the door open as long as I can but if it's open all night we tend to disturb her when we come up (small house!) so it rather defeats the object. She was in a highsleeper but she didn't like being up close to the window - she said the wind and rain disturbed her but I think she may also be worried about someone climbing in although that would be very hard as there's a conservatory directly below - so we've moved her back into a normal bed, but it's made no difference.

I've done everything I can think of to help - given her every opportunity to talk to me or someone else about anything that might be worrying her, she has certain toys that make her feel safe in bed with her (in the bed she begged to go back into, with new covers she chose herself). I don't let her play on the computer/DS too close to bedtime and there's no TV in her room. She's given up reading anything that might be exciting or scary before bed, usually I read a chapter of our current book to her then she reads an old favourite for 20 minutes or so. She's definitely tired, she's fed and watered and her room is pleasant, warm and comfortable.

Has anyone else experienced sleep issues in an older child who could offer some advice? I am at a loss about what to do next.

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BayeauxT · 20/02/2012 13:55

Hi, I posted something similar a few weeks back about my 6yo DD - someone suggested giving her a footrub before bedtime - and it definitely seems to help her relax and go to sleep. I do it for about 10 minutes after stories, and she's not allowed to talk to me while I'm doing it. If I finish at 8.45, she's usually asleep by 9.30, which is a huge improvement.

WannaBeWildCosMyLifesSoTame · 20/02/2012 20:14

I might try that although she's very ticklish! Going to try and find your thread, would be useful to see what else might work/be the cause.

Hope your DD is continuing to sleep better :)

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wonderfultykes · 20/02/2012 20:30

We had this with DS,9. I lent him my iPhone with a fabulous app by Andrew somebody called Deep Sleep, or there's one called 'Relax' . (Ideally you listen with earphones so need to keep an eye out re the wires when they drift off.)

THe man has a lovley relaxing tone of voice and it worked really well, DS started sleeping again. (Then weeks later we got to the bottom of the reason behind it all.)

If no app machines, before when DS was 5 ish we used a CD called Relax Kids that was really good too.

We found although he wasn't ready to confront, or didn't even know himself what was disturbing him, the app helped the sleeping, which at least helps day-to-day life&school till the root problem outed itself.

Much sympathy and good luck

WannaBeWildCosMyLifesSoTame · 21/02/2012 16:20

We've got a relaxation CD which did help a bit, but as you say it's getting to the root of the problem that is key. Last night was better so fingers crossed.

Thanks for your help :)

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