12 days old when do i start a routine?

[kiki22]

At the moment DS is only 12 days he sleeps great in the day and never crys but once it gets to about 8pm he's up and down constantly he tries to sleep but wakes with a sore type cry usually wind this goes on until about 4am the he's out for the count again.

When do i start trying to get him into a routine so he sleeps more at night instead of in the day? and how do i do it? i dont want to leave it to late.

Hey just relax and enjoy your little boy, try and rest/nap when he does during the day and get into your own little routine when it seems ready.

Some people never have a routine they just go with the flow, others find that a routine is easier for them. Babies don't always want/respond to one others will click into it straight away.

What do YOU want to do....really?

Apart from sleep of course!

Oh and congrats BTW!

Congratulations. Try not to worry about routine. It's unlikely to work or make you happy at this point. You must feel in a daze, but it's short lived.

I'm the sort of person who likes to have some control over my evenings. When dd was about 2-4 weeks, I started putting her in her moses basket in her bedroom with light dimmed at 7.30ish. She seemed to get straight into that routine and sleep through till 11ish when I'd move her to my room for the night feeds. She adapted much better to the night time routine than anything I tried in the daytime.
I can see why people suggest that you just go with the flow, enjoy baby etc. but I'm not the sort of person who'd cope very well with randomness. I got my peace of mind from knowing I had the evening to myself which gave me more energy for night feed time.

Let him guide you - he'll very soon get to know the difference between night and day and it will all fall into place. With ds1 I was very routine led and it was stressful - he was a lap baby really and wanted to be held all the time and I was trying to go against the flow by aking him self settle and nap on schedule. With ds2 I've just followed his lead and he's fitted into the family much more easily.

A friend advised me that about 12 weeks they start getting into their own rough routine. The trick is to watch out for it emerging and then build on it/steer it in your preferred direction.

Don't worry about it yet - 12 day old babies and routines don't really mix

Oh, and congratulations!

Congratulations on your baby, kiki!
Here's my two pennies worth:
I would say step number one is to get him to realise the difference between day and night. From say 7pm, do everything in the dark, no noise, just whispering and feed in dark in front of TV on softly if he likes to cluster feed. This will go on for a few weeks.
Step number two is to start a bedtime routine. Mine is bath, feed and bed. Once it is bedtime, keep things very dark and quiet and try not to take him out of the bedroom again. He'll soon learn that bedtime is after bathtime and it will take less and less time to get him to sleep at night. My first DC took about 8 weeks to get to the point where I could just feed him and put him in bed. It took a bit longer with my second, 14 weeks.

12 days is really really tiny, he hasn't realised he's out of the womb yet - but hang in there, it will get easier!