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Difficult to settle 9 week old. Anyone out there with a similar experience

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GusTheOneEyedPolarBear · 09/02/2012 05:19

I'm having trouble getting my 9 week old DS to settle to sleep and was wondering if anyone else could offer me some tips on how to improve things. This is the second night this week I haven't slept at all and it's beginning to affect me.

DS2 will only sleep in the Moses basket if he has first slept on me for about 45 minutes and then is rocked in the Moses basket for twenty minutes and even then this isn't guaranteed to work every time. If this doesn't happen he will cry inconsolably until picked up and the whole cycle starts again. It can take up to an hour of shushing, jiggling and rocking to get him to sleep anywhere. He also likes to suck on the knuckle of my index finger to try and sooth himself to sleep but refuses to take a dummy and gets very frustrated if my finger falls out of his mouth.

I am a very heavy sleeper (DH jokes that I could sleep through world war 3) so co-sleeping would not be an option for us.

We have tried to get him into our older son's bedtime routine of bath, pyjamas, story and bed at 7-7.30 but it doesn't seem to work with him (so much for second children just going along with what's already in place :o ) . He is never asleep before 11pm. We have also tried offering him a bottle of ebm (he is ebf) as we did with DS1 at that age as it worked really well with him, but DS2 refuses to take a bottle.

I am really stumped with this and if anyone could pass on some tips on how to improve his sleep I would be beyond grateful. You can tell by the look on his face and the way he cries, that DS2 is tired a lot of the time which won't be helping the situation. I am feeling incredibly run down and because of DS1, who is 3.11 and still needs supervising, it is impossible for me to catch up with any sleep when DH is not around.

Once he is asleep he will go for about 5 hours during the night so quantity of sleep isn't the problem, it's just getting him to sleep in the first place!

Thanks for reading

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NearlyPastTheYardarm · 09/02/2012 05:39

Does he sleep in the car? We had lots of adventures getting DS1 to sleep, including taking him for a drive at 11.30 one snowy night because nothing else was working. He wasn't as bad as what you describe, but it did take til ~12w to settle into a routine of actually falling asleep at bedtime.

Is getting a babysitter/childminder for an afternoon for DS1 an option, to get you a few hrs of sleep?

GusTheOneEyedPolarBear · 09/02/2012 05:55

Thanks Nearly.

He will sleep in the car but not every time. Quite often he is quite happy to sit there awake as I drive along (This is going by DS1's reports when I ask him how they are back there but he is quite often awake when I stop and get him out). I will definitely give it a shot though as the no sleep is doing neither of us any good. Beginning to appreciate just how lucky I was with DS1, he was going about 8 hours through the night by now.

DS1 does go to a CM three days a week even though I'm on MA because I need his space for when I go back to work in Sept and she's keeping a space for DS2 free of charge because I keep sending DS1. I'm going to text her in a bit, see if she'll have him for the day. I'm really not going to be much fun for a three year old today.

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NearlyPastTheYardarm · 09/02/2012 06:13

Some extra rest will help, but you might also like this: www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0857862650?ie=UTF8&force-full-site=1

Good luck, I hope you find something that works.

GusTheOneEyedPolarBear · 09/02/2012 06:27

:o :o :o Thanks Nearly

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