Pick up put down

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I just have a quick question, am I right, baby cries, so pick her up, saying nothing until she quietens then put her back down in the cot awake but not crying, if she cries, then do the same again, over and over. If this is correct, I did it for over an hour with no joy, do I just keep going is this too soon to stop? Dd is 7 momega old and been a nightmare at night since 4 month sleep regression.

Was wondering how the PU/PD actually works, wont LO start to continue to associate crying with meaning being picked up and when they stop they're not going to be cuddled, just wondered?

Not sure what to try next, would just like some sleep!

I think it's as soon as they stop crying. Tried it with mine and it just wound him up. I think it does work on some babies and she wrote in the book that she's done it up to 100 times on some babies. Good luck

Yes, you're doing it right. You can say soothing things, just don't get chatty.

Saw Tracy Hogg doing it on TV and it took ages, and the first night she was up three or four times, over an hour each time. Does look exhausting but for her, it worked.

I think the point of it is that they are not left alone so it's not traumatic (in TH's words, you don't break the bond of trust!), but they realise that you're serious about going to bed and not taking them into your room or sitting cuddling them for ages.

One question - are you sure there's no other reason that she's not settling e.g. hunger, too much sleep in the day? PUPD generally only works well if there's no other reason for the waking except habit.

I'm pretty sure it's just habit, I've been blaming her teething for about 3 months now and still no tooth! She naps well in the day, 45 mins an hour after she's woken up, 1 hour around 11.30 ish and then 60-90 mins at 3ish. She's on 3 7 oz bottles and 3 meals a day, she doesn't want food at her night wakings, just screams the house down unless shes in bed with us where she sleeps like a log.

I guess we'll just have to keep trying!!