I need your suggestions,never come across this one.

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Hi. DD is 11 months has been a pretty unpredictable sleeper but not horrendous.Slept all night about 2 months but regressed about 4 months,had recently settled down and slept well over xmas but last Sunday she woke up all night took ages to settle (shush pat and a bit of pu/pd like we have always done) However,even tho she seems to be asleep-heavy breathing,laying still etc,when i leave the room its as if she knows and sits up and starts screaming. I left so quietly its as if she senses im not there. It takes ages to get her off to sleep and then she wakes again a few hrs later.
Im guessing this is separation anxiety but what do i do? I wouldnt mind her coming in with us but its only a double bed and also it doesnt seem to work with her when ive tried in the past she cries more
Any suggestions?Im sure others have experienced this.
Im going to try and sleep in a bit but will be back tomorrow for the solutions Heeeeeeelp.

Sorry its not clear,she has done it every night since Sunday.

It does sound like separation anxiety, DS is also 11 months and very confident and independent in the day, but is waking at midnight for a cuddle. The problem is he won't go back down in less than an hour, and I'm back at work, so he always ends up in bed with me or DH, I just don't have the energy to settle him at night. It's about survival IMO, it must get better eventually, right?

Our bed is also a double so not much space, but we take turns sleeping in his room on a mattress. He is sleeping between 7pm and midnight in his cot though so I think he will sleep through when he is ready. And TBH I've got so used to co-sleeping, I miss him when it's DH's turn.

So no real solution from me, but you're not alone. If your DD was a good sleeper before, I think chances are she will be one again when this regression is over.

Thanks,it sounds exactly the same to me,esp the over an hour to settle again and the being back at work zzzzzzzzzz.
I wish she would co sleep tbh but it seems to annoy her too much.It does help to know its not just me tho,she is baby no 5 and ive never had it before.
She also sleeps 7 till anytime from 11 to 4am

I thought she wouldn't settle if she is in bed with you both in your room, but if she doesn't want to co-sleep under any circumstances, I have no idea what to suggest... it must be even tougher. I remember DS going through a phase when he didn't want to co-sleep at all and waking up at 5am, I so wanted to take him in my bed and have another hour of zzzzzz. Now it's the other way round :o And just when I'm telling myself I will try to settle him in his cot, he gets a cold or starts teething, so I just want to comfort him.

How often is she napping during the day? TBH, if it were separation anxiety, she'd be exhibiting signs during the day as well. It's not something that generally just manifests itself at night unless she's afraid of the dark (unusual at her age).

If she's approaching a stage where she needs less sleep overall in a 24 hour period and her daytime naps stay the same, she will compensate for this by being awake at night.

Not a great napper to be honest.Id say a maximum of 2 hrs a day sometimes much less. She is actually clingy in the day too.I went back to work last week just 2 days but it started the day before or id have said it was that.
I guess we are just stuck with it until it changes again,she has a cols and is cuttung a tooth which doesnt help.

Really bad night here,im getting desperate now.She woke at 12 and just couldnt sleep unless i was patting her back,she seems to go to sleep but then sits up and cries the second i move towards the door!
I was thinking of putting her in with us but keep thinking of the consequences,eg. cant have a drink at weekends or cant get a sitter cos she will need to be in with us etc,then this morning at 5 i tried it and as i said she just cries and cries as if she hates being in with us,she will sleep sat up against me but will not lie down.
Getting desperate now have had aprox 4 hrs broken sleep and a whole stretching out,dh is working a late so have left him to sleep.

Love, I clearly remember reading that separation anxiety can manifest itself mostly at night, not sure why though.

OP, sending you a big caffeine infused un-MN hug for today. I would try sleeping in her room for a little while, would that work? I mean sleeping in her room not with her in the bed, if that makes sense. Maybe you can try it for a few days so you get a bit more sleep, then you'll have a bit more energy to tackle the problem.

DS had stopped feeding in the night but wanted milk again these last couple of days, so I fed him at 3ish. He has a cold and a bad cough so I just want to make sure he gets enough fluids. He was also up at midnight.

Can you share some nights with your DH? I couldn't do it if I didn't get more sleep on Fridays and Saturdays.

Dont get me wrong,he is fab,actually does more than me and works longer hours too,the guilt just adds to my stress.
Today he has to work 4-12. I am off. We argued about who got up at 6 which was unfair cos he has to work.I came down in a strop then at 8.30 he came down to offer to help with school run.I am trying to get him to go back to bed now. Poor dd1 was late for school and its her birthday Sat and i cant even begin to think about her party and pressies Dh is going to sleep in with her tonight so i can have a full night.
We stopped giving her night milk around 9 months and she slept brilliantly for a couple of weeks before this started.
I have been looking at a sleep consultant but not sure if its a waste of money.
Thanks for the sympathy,it does help.