Can I have a bit of support from like-minded, fluffy-wuffy style parents?

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I hesitate to use the term, but, for the sake of shorthand, I am kind of AP style with the kids.Ds1 was a piece of piss as a baby and ate, slept and then slept more. Ds2 had health issues and has never been a good sleeper. We co-sleep (doesn't sleep in cot/bed) and he bfs a fair bit.

He is a charming little chap and very chilled, but he sleeps for a maximum of 2hrs at a go. Sometimes, it's way less than this. I ususally bf him when he wakes, because it is easy and quick and I am fucking knackered.

Please, can anyone tell me it passes? I am reading NCSS for toddlers, but tbh I haven't the energy to implement anything. Will he improve of his own accord?

19mths of very disturbed sleep is taking its toll.

Please, if you are here to slag off AP style parenting, don't. Start your own thread!

Hi Sarah and possum

Hello fluffy parent! I was going to start a thread with something very similar, just needed some lovely stories of cosleeping/bf at night! I find that just reading other people saying that it gets better and that it is lovely (when you know it, but have forgotten it due to lack of sleep) and good for the lo helps me so much, thank you for posting!

Me too! Co sleeping and bf 9mo DS. I think we are going to take the side down on the cot though, he is a bed hogger and I am back at work and need a bit more sleep.
sarah how unsupportive of your DH and I hope your MIL doesn't put pressure on you this time too!

Hello, I would like to join in! Our daughter has been waking at least every two hours for about four weeks. I've had CC recommended to me twice already and our baby is only 19 weeks old! Also DH doesn't seem to believe me when I tell him about the 16 week sleep regression, Wonder Weeks etc - fair enough but he could do his own research if he doesn't believe mine! I've just finished NCSS and am about to do a plan. I'm not expecting miracles though!

Yes my MIL is pretty scary! I just find myself doing what she tells me. She is like a headmistress and makes you feel stupid if you aren't doing things her way. I am a pathetic jibbering mess! However she seems to be laying off me this time round. DH will just have to wait until me and DS are ready to stop. Which is not yet!! Co-sleeping is just the best. I find it so hard to get up for work when I have a beautiful warm snuggly boy to cuddle!

Might be the wine talking but fuck the CIO brigade! I too have tried refusing BF once (few months ago DS is now 14mo) and it ended with me and him weeping in the dark for an hour until I gave in and offered him boob. I remember a midwife telling me that everything is worse at 3am when you've had no sleep and you are probably at your most vulnerable then to try something more hardcore. So in spite of all our woes and the naysayers, well done all you lovely co-sleeping bfing mummies out there! DH and I are going to try and move the cot alongside our bed this week to give us all a bit more room- who's betting it's me and DH who end up in the cot with LO sprawled across our bed

Glad it;s not just me who has a horizontal baby!
Sarah I do hope I'm not stepping out of line, your MIL really needs to butt out!

I'm sorry if I'm thick, but what is AP?

re horizontal babies look at this
We have the cot against the wall and the bed right against it and without the side, sometimes I end up there

Attachement Parenting babySilver

Just managed to refuse my DS the boob. He woke 40 mins after I put him down and its just a bit too much. He screamed and wriggled but I cuddled him and he went to sleep after about 10 mins. Will try and repeat again in 40 mins! Will defo cave in once I get to bed though. He will be in with me by midnight I can be sure!

DH just woke baby by talking in his sleep . Another loooooong night!

Another fluffywuffy parent here.
Have you tried feeding him to sleep in a different bed and then leaving him there to sleep while you go elsewhere and get some sleep yourself? I co-slept with DS from 0-5.5m, but at that point we started to disturb each other, so he went into the cot and we both slept better - sometimes he'd get a dreamfeed and go back to sleep; others he wouldn't and I'd end up bringing him back to bed with me for safety (I'd be falling asleep in the chair = dangerous).

However, my methods probably aren't the best - DS still can't self-settle in bed (just 4) and doesn't like to sleep alone. Once he's asleep, I can leave him in the bed - but if he wakes and he's on his own, he either comes and finds us or screams the place down. I have ishoos about leaving him to do that (he has hysterical breathing issues, and I don't mean amusing) so effectively we're still co-sleeping now. But we do both get sleep because he's very quiet and not too wriggly. I didn't stop bf'ing til DS was 23m, though.